Ok, My dad is well, if I say it here I would get suspended. Lets just say hes a real jerk and hes a disgrace to men and guys everywhere. He yells at my mom for no reason. He yells at her when she goes outside for a few minutes just to get away from him. She thinks she is useless all because of him. Hes brainwashed her. My mom hurt herself badly a few months ago so she couldnt go back to work if he (or she) leaves. I have a job but its not the best out there. Imm only 14 and my sister is only 8. HGe thinks he can beat us up and we cant defend ourselves. He doesent beat us up all the time though. Hardly ever. Im planning on moving to another state when I grow up. But I need to get my mom and sister out of this. My dad wont see help. He is under alot of stress with back pain and everything. So is my mom. What do I do? Ive got no clue.
2006-07-26 15:13:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Like I said he doesent beat us.
2006-07-26 15:19:49 · update #1
Can you talk with someone in your community regarding your families situation. Sounds like your father is very abusive. Many woman are afraid to leave relationships for many different reasons including finances, what others will think, fear etc. But you as a witness to this abuse can seek out help at women's shelter's, police services, hospitals, friends, teachers, religious leaders. But it is important that you try and help youself, your mom and your sister get out of this relationship. Try to be strong and brave and please do seek advice. If possible try and get your mom to go with you and if not if you can get written information to pass on to your mom then perhaps she will read it and learn from it. Back pain is certainly a bad thing to experience however this doesn't give anyone - male or female - to become a bully to their loved ones.
Good luck to you in trying to help out.
2006-07-26 15:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stess is no reason it be physically or mentally abusive. Tell another trusted adult at school or where ever they might be. Ask for help from professionals. Call the police when your dad starts up on your mom. When her kids make a move for help maybe she will see that she needs to also. There are plenty of places for women and kids to go that are safe to get away from these situations. Just look in the phone book for an abuse hot line in your area and they can tell you all where you should go for help
2006-07-26 15:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by dbonez2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go to your pastor at your church, or a counselor at your school. Or maybe even one of your friends parents that you really trust, but you need to talk to someone. You are right that you, your sister & your mom need out of that enviroment & being only 14 you are not going to be able to do anything by yourself. There are people out there that can help you. I admire you for trying to get help. You seem like a very smart & loving young lady. I wish you luck.
God Bless!!
2006-07-26 15:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by lovinlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call child protective services. Or call the police. If you can't do that, tell another adult that your dad is beating you and your sister. Another adult like a doctor or your teacher or your guidance counselor, or your pastor/priest/minister/whoever. They MUST report it, and he'll be investigated. You need to get your dad out of your house.
2006-07-26 15:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hun I am sure this is a very trying situation.Maybe your mom would move to a family members house if you talk to her about it.I really think that if he hits you your sister or mom you should call the police to get help.He is verbally abusing all of you maybe you could talk to a teacher at school or maybe a family member.I am sorry you all should not have to deal with this.good luck to you
2006-07-26 15:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your father is a very disturbed individual, by belittleing your mom, whom he should support, and love, he is a control freak, mildely put, disrespecting her as you say clearly indicates so, if there is a underlying problem such as alcoholism, help for you and her is available from alanon, other than that you and her should talk, soon about resolving the situation before it turns worse, and it can, please seek professional help, abuse cannot be tollerated either you seeing, or her being on the recieving end!! take great care however, he may be on the defence , because of a greater degree of guilt!!
2006-07-26 15:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police if he is violent. Look in the yellow pages of your phone book for some victims hotlines in your area...they can give you help and support to get out of this situation.
2006-07-26 15:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had the magical answer for you. Sounds like tuff times my Friend.Sooner or later you and your mom and sister need to get away from him. When he smacks her and leaves some marks report him.
2006-07-26 15:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go here sweetie and look up for the place in your city and tell them u need help and they will help u and get u and mom and sis out of all that and your dad will not find u good luck.http://www.ywca.org/site/pp.asp?c=djISI6PIKpG&b=289453
2006-07-26 15:27:15 · answer #9 · answered by tina m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do if your mom isn't willing to leave him. All you can do is talk to her and tell her your concerns and your plans, but you can't really make her leave him alone.
2006-07-26 15:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋