If your girlfriend/boyfriend is way younger and hotter than you, would you feel proud or embarrassed?

Question

I'm seeing a guy who is significantly older than me and not exaclty attractive in most people's eyes....
Instead of feeling like he's "got it", it's almost like he's embarrassed...
To strangers, he sometimes purposly makes joking comments like "I'm just just helping her find a guy because she has trouble meeting men... hahaha"... as if he's trying to make an joking excuse for why I'm with him...
And these strangers aren't even looking at us funny (at least I don't sense it).
Does anyone understand WHY he does this??

Answer 1

Because he thinks everyone thinks he's a cradle robbing pervert. He's not comfortable with that.
When I was dating a girl 20 years younger than me people would always ask if she was my daughter. We'd always say yes and then kiss in a very non-father/daughter way. So you can have fun with it too.

Answer 2

Your guy clearly has confidence issues it's like passive aggression but different I don't remember my freshman psych that well so I forget what it is called. My girlfriend is a lot younger and infinitely hotter than I. I get a chuckle at the fact that other guys hotter than me want her but can't have her. hehehehe Oh I just thought of something have him watch Hitch tell him pay close attention to Albert, similar sitch

Answer 3

He currently has, or has had in the past, one or more people tell him it's not OK to date someone younger.

Someone has criticized, or is criticizing him for it.

Could be anyone -- family, co-worker, friend. I wouldn't worry about it too much unless it gets worse, or it really bothers you.

You should say something to him if it bothers you. If it gets worse, and the antagoistic person is close to him, could be a difficult relationship, hard to make work out long-term.

But he's responding to others in a way to offset this earlier criticism. Something happens in his "think" when someone comes around, he feels a need to explain it or justify it, because one or more people have made it wrong or bad to date you due to your age.

Answer 4

He sounds like he really is embarassed.

You don't say the age difference but I suspect that he honestly has issues with it and hasn't told you. Other people or friends of his have told him that he is seeing someone too young for him...and he doesn't know what to do yet.

The issue with resolve itself. He will get comfortable or you two will break up eventually. Couples have to feel like themselves....completely comfortable to advance in the relationship.

Answer 5

both,besides the undeniable fact that that is a lot less embaressing than an undesirable being pregnant.the purely time i purchased some replaced into for my honeymoon.5 years later we had 3 toddlers and the surgeon instructed my spouse that she ought to die of issues if she had yet another.

Answer 6

Insecurity . You have to make him feel secure . How does he behave when he is alone with you. He would be very different .So make him feel secure and the relationship will blossom.

Answer 7

He is prolly worried that people will think he is some sort of sicko because you are younger than him. Tell him that you are not ashamed of him and he should stop caring what other's think of your relationship.

Answer 8

I pride myself on scoring with younger women. I'm not embarrassed at all.

My sister tells me that they're only using me for my money. I told her "that's what it's for!"

A golf buddy once said, "Dude, she's half your age!" I told him, "Don't be insulting. She's not that old!" LOL

Answer 9

sounds like he's embarrassed to be with you. are you sure the age difference isn't to much for him?

Answer 10

Maybe he's insecure? Why don't you ask him about it. I'd be proud.