i am still in love with my x since 1999. i can't get over him what do i do. We still have a friendship and i know that does not help me with my situation. the truth to why i don't want to let go of the friendship is because i still hope that he might one day want the same thing i do which is to get back 2gether. He tells me that we will never get back together but he is always giving me mixed feelings. He tells me about his relationships (sexual incounters) and when i ask him if he loves her he says "no, she is just convinient". If he knows how i feel about him and if he does not want me to hold on why doesn't he just not tell me he loves her and let me go does : I AM CONFUSED:
2006-07-26 14:49:53 · 9 answers · asked by semret A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe u should ask him
2006-07-26 14:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by undecided213 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I been there and let me tell you it's not fun! The only advice I can give you is to talk away while you still whatever pride you still have left. He knows that you have feelings for him especially if he is the one that broke your heart. But I think whats best for you is to have a clean break. You don't want to hear about his sexual escapades. Just lay it out there and tell him as I much as I value your friendship I think it's best we parted ways. If he asked why again be honest and tell him I am not quite sure I ever got over you and hearing about your sex life makes you uncomfortable. He will either change his frienship with you and not tell you those things and if that's what you want great. I doubt it is though which is why I say walk away with your head held high. Best of luck
2006-07-26 15:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sure are. Ive been here...what is it that I'm expecting to get out of this person if they like me, want me or focus on me? generally an intense focus such as this indicates a strong belief that there is something outside of myself that i need to be ok....which is utter maddness. Sorry if I sound like drphil. try some structured meditation for 6 months.
2006-07-26 14:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by rkalch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you need to live your life and find out who you are.
It is so hard to move on, but be yourself and go forward in life. That is what makes a confident person attractive. I also recommend not asking about his encounters. And also realize that if he is shallow enough to be like that what is it that makes you a better person when you are with him?!?
Concentrate more on who you are than who he is with...
2006-07-26 14:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by ChristianGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Confused,
I would consider forgetting about him completely. He probably thought you were " just convenient " when you were in a relationship with him. Do you really want to be a convenience again. Find someone who will be more considerate.
2006-07-26 14:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over it if you continue to be friends with him. You need to let it go and move on with your life. You are letting life pass you by by waiting for something that is prolly never going to happen.
2006-07-26 14:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u r his friend he tells u the truth he gets it of his chest .
i know what u go thru there is a girl at school who i feel i can never have ,she is beautiful.
just enjoy the friend ship its the right thing to do .
look at friends rachel and ross.
2006-07-26 14:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by chuxs d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows you still love him. It's an ego boost for him. Stop talking with him. Email me if you need me to extrapolate.
2006-07-26 14:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by dfhggd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come to me baby just do what he is doing with u right now
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2006-07-26 14:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋