My friend and I have feelings, yet hes not ready....?

Question

My guy friend and I have been really good friends for two years. I love him, he loves me, and we both know it. I had started thinking that we may take it to the next level, but then he wrote this to me:

"I know how you feel for me. I am not sure if you know how I feel for you. I love you in every way possible. Never will I ever want to hurt you or make you angry. I will always be here to comfort you and protect you, even when I'm gone. We dont have a boyfriend/girlfriend bond or a husband/wife bond. A friend bond, and this bond will last for eternity. There are still many things you dont know about me yet. When the time is ripe, you'll know. I will always always love you unconditionally!"

Now the thing is, I want to take our relationship further, but he apparently doesnt. Keep in mind, every bf/gf relationship he has known has ended up badly. He doesnt trust anything other than friendship. What do I do to get him to trust our love?

I forgot to mention that he was abused as a kid. Im guessing that certain circumstances while he was being abused are the things he hasnt told me.

Answer 1

He is deffinately loving you, he just doesn't want to ruin a friendship. Reassure him that you will always love him, and that you trust him so much with your mind, that you would like to try to trust him with other things aswell. Guys can be a bit thick headed sometimes, tell him that you will wait for him to take it to the next level, but ur not like those other girls. He loves you and along with love is trust. Tell him that your ready and waiting.

Answer 2

This letter is drawing a line in the sand and saying: don't cross it. He wants to be friends. If he wanted anything else, he would have made it clear. Why he only wants to be friends only he knows but this line concerns me: "There are still many things you don't know about me yet." I wonder what it is that he is not ready to tell his closest friend.
If you want to take this to the next level despite his telling you that he doesn't you will have to risk his rejecting you. Are you ready for that? It might well affect your friendship. If you decide to do it you are going to have to be totally honest with him about your feelings. Don't hold back. Just lay it all on the line and let the cards fall where they may. Good luck. B

Answer 3

I know it'd be hard... but give him time. If he's scared (which sounds like the case) then you don't want to rush him into anything. Sometimes guys just need the time to prepare themselves or want to wait for the "perfect moment". Maybe he doesn't realize that in order to love you have to be friends too? My boyfriend and I are like best friends, it wouldn't work otherwise. Just show him that you care, give him his space, but try to do little things to remind him every once in a while that you love him.

Answer 4

He would not favor to get married in any respect,do not waste any extra of your existence with him,in case you truly love him propose a date in about 6 months time,if he wriggles out of it back you'll understand the position you stand,i ought to unload him!

Answer 5

You should find out what it is he's keeping from you. How good of friends are you? You should find out what he's talking about. And I can't believe you posted his letter!? wow. You don't need someone that doesn't want you. That letter is all fluff. There's something he's hiding and it's on purpose.

Answer 6

well, you can strong arm him into it and see if that works! or you can accept where he's at and evaluate if you want to wait/put effort into this or not. if your ready for things to go further, be with someone capable of that. tada!

Answer 7

Do not push him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This may turn out that you and him may not be b/f, but what an awesome friendship. This is hard to find!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

let your friendship grow