2006-07-26 14:40:32 · 8 answers · asked by redwiggle01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
unfortunately, you really can't unless your boyfriend wants his family out of it. Remember, its his family and he has to be the one to confront them. if you do, they will try to get your boyfriend to break up with you. try talking to your boyfriend about it...
2006-07-26 14:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend's parents "but out of the relationship", it means they don't care about him and his life. I hope you don't really want this. You really need to on getting them to like you, and not through manipulating them. Focus on being a truly genuine person and look for commonalities that you can talk to them about or ask for advice if the opportunity is there. You honestly sound pretty young, but things like cheer-leading, movies, clothes, and shopping will help you find a common ground.
Take opportunities to complement their son; mention when he does something especially nice for you, if he says something good about his parents, or I'm glad you taught him to do that or behave that way. Everyone wants to be validated, and if you have a chance to let his parents know they've done good, it will go miles to developing a relationship with them. You'll soon find curfew pushed forward another hour if there's a reason and they'll be a lot nicer to you. Always remember to keep it sincere; most people can see through fake complements and lying. Good luck.
2006-07-26 22:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by chris m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask why they are butting in? If the BF is inviting their opinion, then you must ask the BF why he is doing it.
Our son came to us when the GF was asking for things that he didn't feel comfortable with and didn't know how to cross her.
The GF tried to drive a wedge between him and us. What she didn't understand is by trying to cut us out of his life, she was setting it up for a no win situation. It ultimately boiled down to him giving in time and time again and finally he saw there was no pleasing her.
He broke up with her and hasn't looked back. Then all his friends told him how he'd changed being around her.
Bottom line is if you want a relationship with him YOU have to learn how to get along with his family (and yes, they have to learn to accept you). Understand that you both come from different backgrounds and there will be compromise on each side. Every parent dreams of welcoming their inlaws into the family. No one wants to loose a son or daughter, they want to gain a son in law or daughter in law.
2006-07-26 21:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by rcb26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill them. Kill them all. And the dog. Or you can just live with the fact that they are going to but in. Truth is, you aren't in a relationship with them. You are in one with your boyfriend. It wouldn't be a problem when they but in if you didn't think it had an effect on him. So stop worrying about them and focus on him. Talk to him about not letting them get to him. If you can't deal with it between you two, you can't deal with it.
2006-07-26 21:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? What issues are they involved with? How old are you? There are numerous questions I would have regarding many circumstances, before any advice could be given.
2006-07-26 21:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that you are not dating his parents you are dating him. So, if things don't change you are going to leave.
2006-07-26 21:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by EMTGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK JUST BE A NICE PERSON TO HIM N THEN PROBALY HIS FAM WON'T HAVE TO BUTT IN UR RELATIONSHIP...
2006-07-26 21:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by PACKZ.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "BUTT OUT OF OUR RELATIONSHIP"
That was easy
2006-07-26 21:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmiepooh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋