How to start a good conversation?

Question

Well, sometimes i have trouble starting a conversation with a girl...specially with the ones i like.

We would talk for a while, then all of a sudden i run out of things to say, and we both stay quiet...and she leaves.

Any tips on how to start a good conversation with a 16 years old girl, what kind of question to ask...stuff like that.

Help please.
Thanks

Answer 1

I like this question. First off, don't worry too much about what it is your talking about. Remember that it's more important how you say it. Take the time to learn a few things about body language, because it will do a few very important advantagous things for you.

First. It raises your confidence, making it easier and more relaxing to converse with her. Second, you'll look and behave more like a man. (Something you should know that women love... I'm so profound, it kills me.) Third, you'll be able to interpret her body language so you'll know what she's thinking without having to ask her yourself.

Good topics to talk about are topics you know a lot about. A good way to sell someone on a topic who might not normally be interested in the subject is to talk it up to sound like something they would enjoy. This works on everyone, guys included. Who knows, this could be helpful in a situation where you're being forced to talk to old people, and come on, who likes talking to old people anyway?

I strongly recommend that you ignore boring and mundane topics like family, school, work, ect. (By the way, those are ALL classically bad conversation topics.) If it's something you're not interested in talking about, you're going to have a hell of a time trying to make her interested. It's pretty much a losing battle from there.

Also, pay close attention to what she says. Listen carefully enough, and she'll drop you hints about what it is she wants to talk about.

I'll give you an example:
(I know this is lame, but role with it. It's simple and easy for you to get what I'm talking about this way.)

You say: "Gee, I love dogs."
She says: "Dogs are annoying, unlike cats."

In this example situation, it would be very smart to pick up on the fact that she has some interest in cats. So it would be ideal to continue with something like, "Do you own any cats?" This let's her know that you're paying attention to her, and that you're offering to talk about something that might peek her interest.

Again, I know that was a very lame example, but now you know what to look for. With practice, you'll master small talk like this. So try it, you'll thank me. By the way, a good conversation is just a bunch of small talk more or less.

Also, I know that since you're still new at this, you're still going to run into points where neither of you are talking. Be cool. Don't stress over it. A good thing to do in a situation like this is to do something physical to jumpstart the conversation again. (She wouldn't be there with you if she didn't like you. Remember that, and what I say next will make a lot more sense.)

When this happens, give her a playful nudge on the shoulder if you're close to her and say something like, "Hey you don't have to be shy around me just cause I'm so beautiful." This will most likely lead to her giving you a playful shove back followed by a, "Oh so you think you're prettier than me?" or something to that affect. (This is the start of what is called flirting, and could wind up into a makeout session if you play your cards right.) I'll leave you to figure it out from there. Good luck.

Answer 2

Start off with the simple stuff, like age, where they go to high school, where do they live, do they have a job, then from there ask about her hobbies, what kind of extra curricular activities she is in, what kind of student she is, all of this should lead to deeper topics. And if you guys stop talking, play it off and say, hey I got to go, but you want to exchange (whatever) and we can talk again some other time. Just dont be nervous. The worst thing that can happen? She walks away. And youve already had that happen. So just go for it.

Answer 3

The trick to conversations at any age is
1) use stuff around you
2) use topics from what they said
3) use things you have in common or something you are both doing
4) use simple stuff like weather or news or pop culture
5) bring up what interests you or them

Answer 4

Here's a list- I hope it helps.
1. Teachers you share in common.
2. People you both know, but no negative gossip.
3. Common interests. (Local teams, favorite music..)

To get the talk started, comment on something about her, such as, "That color is great on you..." or "Are you wearing perfume? You smell great." Once you break the ice talk of things you have in common, even if it's only the last book/ movie/ cd/ video game you enjoyed. Good luck. I'm happy to never be sixteen again!!! Peace-

Answer 5

I will start a conversation.

Answer 6

Simple. Stick to topics that you know about but don't forget to ask her questions that would necessitates a discussion. However, stay away from politics or religion. Good luck!

Answer 7

hey my man i was jus lik u, until i started doing a funny thing/theory everytime i saw something that could be like a fun fact from tv or something that i cud use in a converstaion i wud jus jot it down then the following jus run thru da list....u get da idea.

art, books, movies, biggest construction or woteva....but dnt 4get da most important thing woman love being complimented but dnt over do it

Answer 8

I would start something like this. "So, I couldn't help notice that you have breasts? I like breasts". Or the classic. " You know I was was the Utah state oral sex champion last year?". Well I hope that helps out. See ya.

Answer 9

just be calm girls like for guys to be themselves just ask her how she is and tell her she looks nice and just take things from there i hope it works out for u hunny

Answer 10

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