I need a lot of help?

Question

I am going to college in a little over three weeks. It will be the first time that I wont be able to call or contact my family friends or fiance. What I am most worried about is how I will handle being without my fiance. He has been an integral part of my life for the past 4 years helping to pull me out of a major clinical depression and keeping me out of it. I am so worried about how those 2 weeks will pan out. I dont know I am just worried. I am worried things will deteriorate both in our relationship and my mental state. I know he will wait for me its just I get scared and dont know what to do.

we have been engaged 2 months together over a year and best friends 3 years prior

it really isnt that long of distance since it is only two hours away

during 2 week orientation we are not allowed outside contact

Answer 1

Sit down, take a couple of deep breaths and focus. Not on the relationship, your family, or anything but the orientation and yourself. There are reasons that the orientation does not allow outside contact. Understanding what depression is and what you are going through it is easy to see, being that I am outside looking in, that even though it will be a little strange to you, just try and relax and fill your mind with schlool and the tasks before you. Undertstand that all of those people that are at home are behind you and they understand the no contact rule and appreciate where you are. Use the time as it was designed and what it was designed for, to help you. Don't fight the system let it work. It will even work for you and the two week break might be good for you. Everybody will still be there when the two weeks is over. Be a big gurl and focus on the tasks at hand and make them proud. You may find that you are even proud of yourself when done. I know it seems like a long time but it really isn't and there will not be another opportunity to get the information being put before you. Good luck to you and I know you can do it.

Answer 2

You are understandably anxious. College is a big step, especially for someone as reliant on their family and fiance as you appear to be. Honestly, for someone your age, I think you are overly dependent on these relationships and going away to college will help you learn to stand on your own two feet. It is going to be challenging but there will be so much going on and you will make so many new friends that you will be surprised how little time you have to obsess about your fiance. Throw yourself into college with all your heart. It will be a marvelous experience for you. B

Answer 3

think of this as a test of you independentt from him and you are not the only one going though it so is he . the next 2 week will open new door for you and may close some old door in you life. it good to be independen for some time what would if you fiance had to go on a trip for a 6 week somewhere and you can go. could you Handel it . good luck

Answer 4

I kno it is hard, but try not to worry too much about it. Even being away at college you can still talk to your fiance/family/friends via e-mail & instant messaging. Not to mention the telephone. He will always be there.. plus.. who says u can't have a visitor or two....

Answer 5

i dont understand why you wont get to communicate with your family and fiance going to college doesnt mean you cant communicate he can still come and see you cant he?

Answer 6

I'm in a long distance relationship myself, and it works because we trust each other and love each other. As long as your love is true (wow, that's cheesy), it should all work out.

Answer 7

my name is alice , do not worry i,ll be with him