Parents of seven year old GIRLS?.............?

Question

How do you deal with the smart mouth? And how do you handle it? What is the punishments for it? And the non listening?

Answer 1

I teach elementary school and I can tell you how I handle the attitude. When a child is disrespectful to me, I bring my face to their level, eye to eye, and ask them to repeat themselves. It is amazing what a child will say to you from across the room but will not say eye to eye to you. If they repeat it, I firmly tell them that I would like it in writing. Not only do they hate to do this, but it forces them to take time away from something else they would rather be doing. Since this is your own child, a swat on the butt is not such a bad thing. But that is up to you of course. Non-listening can be handled a couple of different ways. First, I make sure that I am looking the child and they are looking at me. Second, I ask them to repeat what I have said. If they still aren't listening I simply tell them that I can't remember where my treats are or I can't remember what time recess is. At home you could use treats, movie times, tv times, or anything else your child is in to. Then I say, "Well, if you can't remember what I said I guess I can't remember where the treats are. If only we could both remember."

Answer 2

Got 11 and 9 kids. Remeber well my daughter at 7 and my son is often not listening.

For important non listening, I use to tell what I want calmly, twice. The third time I just say "1... 2... 3...." If I go to 4, they get an immediate and displeasing consequence. Usually : no computer/games/TV/desert or other pleasant thing they were waiting for, for the day. The trick is to get real big consequences the first times you use it. After that, you'll be surprised how the 1,2,3 calling is just working magicly.

But use it only for important things as it will loose efficiency if you use it too many times. Actually, non listening is sometimes way for them to get a little liberty they deserve and that we forget to give them a this age. If you don't let some loose, the kid just feel repressed and stucked, not a good way to help them to be better listeners and talkers. Keep the balance and stay calm will help better.

Another way for other types of misbehavior, work well for 5-6 years old and older : they have to find a compensation for what they did wrong. The more direct, the better. They mess : they clean. They miss the bus : they walk. Other thing, they have to find other compensation : clean the window, fill the dishwasher, etc. That's real life and kids appreciate to have to find how to repair their own misbehavior.

Finally, I don't use physical (someone talk about soap), because it can be humiliating for the kid and other consequences work well for kids over 3.

Answer 3

Soap in the mouth is a good one, BUT...with ALL punishments YOU HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT. You can't let things slide just cuz they cry or because they say mean things to manipulate you like "you don't love me" or "i don't like you" etc.

Kids will manipulate the hell out of you if you let them. If you think it warrants a punishment than they need to be punished consistently. If you let things slide they will keep doing bad things cuz in their mind they think "i might get in trouble, i might not. I bet i won't."

If they're not disciplined already it's gonna take a while before they get the hint so YOU have to be strong and be consistent. It get's easier once they learn that you mean "business".

Answer 4

I have used soap or hot sauce for the mouth. So the sass has stoped that worked like magic. The not listening, I dont know I have tried everything and still have problems. I wish I had the answers sorry.

Answer 5

My children are older now but I would say, you just don't put up with it. If your child makes a smart mouth remark, you explain to him or her why it is not appropriate to say this kind of thing. And if you get any smart mouthing after that, it's off to the bedroom they go, to think about it. If your child's bedroom is too full of things to entertain them, then it's off to the corner they go. Children tend to try to live up to parent's expectations. If you expect them to be good they will try to do so. Good luck.

Answer 6

It's hard, but don't tolerate it.
My 12 yr old still gets sassy with me at times, and I have to check that behavior right away!
"Don't you back talk me!" or "Don't you roll your eyes at me, young lady!"
Phone privledges go first (hits her HARD), then it is tv, and finally grounding to ROOOOOM! (she HATES that)
I must say that she isn't too bad anymore. She can't stand to not talk on the phone. She especially hates it when her friends call and I TELL them she is grounded from the phone. lol (I am bad for laughing...sorry)
As for not doing something she has been told to do, it goes about the same way, only rather than starting with one day of no phone, I will start at a WEEK for disobeying me.
As an example, she was told to do her laundry from summer camp while I was at work one day, she didn't do it and I wound up having to not only do her laundry from camp, but I had to get my own done and her brothers on my day off (which is REALLY annoying to me...ugh), so no phone for a week for her. She literally thought she was going to die.
Granted, my dd is older than yours and you may want to scale it back, but you have to make it COUNT. If it isn't something that is REALLY important to her, she'll get over it and the lesson will be lost.

Answer 7

Make a wide difficulty of it and enable everyone in contact do not forget that that is innapropriate and irresponsible. that's something you could document to authorities for particular--threaten to take that action if you're met with resistance or a foul body of options. As for the smoking (i'm assuming that's your toddler), make it sparkling that you do not choose her uncovered to 2d hand smoke, and respectfully ask that he smoke outdoors--charm to his experience of compassion for the youngster. You do have a thanks to stop her from this damage. If the adults round her are performing inappropriately or irresponsibly, or perhaps illegally, you could communicate with them and charm to their experience of proper bahaviour and your expectancies. If this does no longer artwork, you could communicate with authorities (social workers, and so on.). solid success. i wish this can properly be dealt with for the girl's sake!

Answer 8

Tell them it is not acceptable. If she can not respect you and be sociable, then she can be alone in her room.

Take away privledges until she can be sociable with good manners. Take away the phone and limit contact with friends.

Put your foot down now or prepare to be used as a doormat.

Answer 9

watch the show "Supernanny" , it will show you how to deal with ALL KINDS of bad behavior. Like using the 'naughty area' and using a firm, calm voice.

Answer 10

ok try to have fun with them also how ofter do you yell at them because most kids about that age are just trying to get there own space where they can be them self's