2006-07-26 14:01:07 · 9 answers · asked by Karen T 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I try to find spouses of others in my hubby's unit. Invite the wives over for lunch or call a friend. And it sounds silly but when he gets deployed I sleep with one of his shirts (that still smells like him). I pray alot and i write huge letters.
2006-07-26 14:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by woodyswoman33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is not to dwell on it. Too many wives spend too much time in front of the television longing for every crumb of news, or hanging about with other military wives all day getting mutually worked up about it. I always give myself a project. I decorate the house or do something new with the garden. I throw myself into my work and my charity work so that I feel as though I am being useful rather than whiling the time away. I remember that I am representing my husband at home and I try to behave with the fortitude he would...and I listen to his tapes over & over :)
2006-07-27 12:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make memories!!! My husband isn't hte only one who feels lonely!!! He's been deployed so many times and we're still not used to it... We have a 22 month old son together and he has a 7 year old daughter. We don't see her much but I make it a point to write to her and tell her about her Dad every couple of weeks... I also take lotts of pictures and e-mail him progress reports and silly things about what we've done... My husband is deploying once again this August to Iraq... I am going back to my Dad'd house for the whole year... the FRG ladies are nice, but I just don't seem to fit in with them as much as I'd like,and BELIEVE me, I've tried!!! They all either don't have any kids or they have older,teenage kids... so there isn't much in common... plus, for an officer's wife, I'm the youngest and that's a problem too... It sucks, but I find the best support with my family... we always keep busy bu going to the park, walking the mall, going to the beach... learning new recipies... all sorts of things, as long as I have someone with me... When our son was a week old, my husband deployed to Afghanistan. I was at my Dad's house too but it was a little harder cause evryone was working or at school... So, I'd pass the time with art... but my son was so demanding that time actually flew by... I hope you can find a way to destract your lonely feelings... the best way is to surround yourself with family and others who support you and have similar interests!!! Good Luck!!!
2006-07-26 21:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Mexi Poff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband isn't deployed right now... but when he is away....
I try to have an extended vacation with my kids. we do tourist stuff and explore where we are stationed. sometimes we visit home for a while. That is still easy for me to do, my kids are very young still. I just keep myself so busy that I fall in the bed every night, then you don't have as much time to think about it.
I also plan things for when he returns... Like I will try to find a mini (inexpensive) trip for the family that we would all enjoy. Last time I bought him a couple of presents... And we had his birthday party when he returned.. Things like that. Keep busy is the main thing.
good luck, I know how hard it can be.
2006-07-26 21:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found a group on yahoo that is comprised of wives where we are stationed. It is so great because we're all in the same place so we can meet up often. And, of course you make closer friends with people you have more in common with so you have these get togethers and get even closer with the people you get along well with. I have been VERY social with other wives since my hub has been gone and I've been having a great time. I plan to be a better wife because of it when he returns. I constantly ahve other moms over my house with their kids so we can hang out and all the kids can play. Get out of the house!! Even if all you want to do is crawl in a hole. Just go to Walmart, or SOMETHING!!!
2006-07-27 01:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by Tamra A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, go to Yahoo answers? No seriously, I will send an email to my husband letting him know how much I love him and then I'll do something postive for our future (when he's back home) like pick out recipes I know he'll like me to try - or new satin sheets - or do some research on a vacation for just the two of us -- which passes the time, makes me feel more "married and connected" and gives us both something to look forward to and talk about... :)
2006-07-26 21:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by KitKat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Writing to him really helps me bc its like Im talking to him. I pray a LOT and a good cry every now and then doesnt hurt either.
2006-07-26 21:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by lora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really active in his unit's wives' club. As much as I love and adore my civilian friends, no one makes me feel better than my military sisters.
2006-07-26 22:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Wendylicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support groups, correspndence with your hubby as much as possible.. Keeping busy...
2006-07-26 22:06:25 · answer #9 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋