Do you like to dominate?

Question

Anyone like bdsm? i'm really submissive and i'd really like to talk to someone who dominate. anyone with any other fetishs?

Answer 1

I am and have been into it for about 4 years. Not that long but long enough to gain some experience and learn a good bit. I am involved in a BDSM group in my area (Tucson AZ) and I highly recommend that if you have one in your area you go, at least for the discussions. As someone discussed before be careful, some see our kink as abuse still when really it isn't. It is consentual between two adults. As he said most get confused.

BDSM is an art, and a way of life. I am very much dominant. However I did try being submissive. While it was great that I learned the "other sides point of view" and that I learned many new techniques, being submissive is not for me. To each their own!

How long have you been into this? Is your husband dominant? If not is he willing to learn? Would he allow you to be dominated if he was present to watch and learn from it also?

If you are not near anyone that posts to this question, and you want to get a partner, check out sites like http://www.alt.com , or http://www.bondage.com , and others to find what / who you are looking for. Otherwise do searches in google/ask for "BDSM in (your area)." Normally some will pop-up.

If you need to know anything else feel free to email me at [e-mail] or via messenger at master_mike_81. Take care, and good luck in the lifestyle, whether a new fetish or one you are trying to grow upon!

Answer 2

I'm a switch, meaning that I like both sides of the spectrum. I've been primarily submissive in the past, but I feel that I would like to explore my Dominant side. Hopefully I'll get the chance to do so in the near future.

I too will have to add my voice of caution as well about on-line searching. Many people who claim to be in the lifestyle are often less interested in BDSM and more interested in just plain ol' sex. Worse still, some are probably quite dangerous and can be lead to disasterous consequences if you are not careful. I'm not saying that on-line is a total waste as I have heard of successful relationships beginning through on-line chatting, but they tend to be the exceptions and not the rule.

However, if you are simply wishing to chat with someone, that might be OK as long as you take some common sense precautions. For example, you may wish to use an alias, probably an obvious one (sort of like my Semi-Mad Scientist one), so that you would be difficult for would-be stalkers to seek you out. Another precaution is to keep vanilla details about yourself vague, just to maintain a safety buffer.

Not all of us on-line are weirdos that think perverted thoughts. (I can say that I'm not one of them, but you only have my word on that.) I'm sure that there are plenty of people, Dominants AND submissives, that can be helpful as you explore this aspect of yourself. Just be careful out there.

I wish you good luck in your journey into this brave new world.

Answer 3

Dear Regs, Many people are into BDSM. But please don't try to find someone via this forum. Finding someone on the internet is too dangerous. I too am into it, also as a submissive. I am married to a wonderful, caring man who can be trusted with this.But I can't stress enough that you need to be careful. When you are in a relationship with someone you trust, that is the time to broach the subject. He may surprise you. I know what you're feeling.

Answer 4

Most of the time but i'm not into bdsm. It's really fun to dictate the pace or tempo of the activity and even direct what to do next but i do believe these things come out naturally.

Answer 5

I am very very dominate. It really turns me on when the women is submissive. Even if she thinks she's dominate she will find out quickly that I am the dominate one!

Answer 6

im submissive. male doms are hard to find. there are a lot of men who use it as an excuse to abuse & walk on women. That is not what it is about. go to castlerealm.com for reading material. if a man dont feel safe to you, use your head. it is important. don't believe "you will do what you are told cuz you are my submissive". submission is given...a gift. just please be careful.

Answer 7

I do love to dominate every once in a while. Kind of a rush knowing the guy is at your mercy!!

Answer 8

Thats funny because I am really tough, but I love to be dominated. I guess that is why I'm attracted to bad boys. But, I also love guys who are clean cut, I mean, hair is straight, clothes are clean, no wrinkles (in his clothes and skin), and he smells sexy.

Answer 9

I am a Dominant male, and I love it. If you'd like to exchange email, you can write to me. [e-mail]

Answer 10

It depends on the mood - but it's better for the guy to
be in charge..