I have low selfesteem about my body. Can anyone help?

Question

I don't always have good thoughts about my body. And I know that's not good. I just sometimes feel that I need to look like a model for me to feel comfortable with myself. I know I should be happy with who I am, but sometimes I just don't feel that way. I'm not fat or skinny. I 'm inbetween the two. And people tell me I'm prertty, but I don't believe them all the time.

Answer 1

Look around you and see if the most attractive girl in the class is also the most sought after. She might be.
But then try to find a plain looking girl who makes guys go crazy. What does she have? Self esteem.
People look at you the way you look at yourself.
I have myself seen so many pretty girls who are shy and so don't have many boyfriends. Whereas some really plain girls are very popular, in a good way I mean.
Try this out and see if the number of your admirers increases.

You get compliments about being pretty, right? Accept them. Believe in them.
Even if you can't believe, try to pretend in front of others that you are really confident and outgoing. I am sure it will help.

25 years of low self-esteem later I have discovered this secret. I just pretend to be confident and people fall for it. They actually find such people really attractive.

Answer 2

I wonder how old you are. It is normal to have such thoughts when going through your teenage years. I think it is a shame that society and the media makes women feel unattractive and inadequate. When I was younger, I felt the same way you do. At some point, I accepted myself the way I am and have been much happier. There is no magic word I can say to instantly give you a positive self esteem, it is something you have to work at. Real women do not look like models, 1% of the population look that way. You need to surround yourself with positive people, who make you feel good about yourself. Once I gained a positive opinion of myself, I noticed that a lot more men noticed me. They liked my attitude and my confidence. Fat or thin (and I have been both), I think that I am attractive and if someone doesn't agree with me, I KNOW there is someone else who will. It takes some work, but you can do it. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I worked in a lingerie store where the pretty girls put themselves down and the not so pretty ones had all the confidence in the world. The point is that pretty girls get ripped down from their peers and not so pretty ones may , but nobody kicks a dead dog, if that makes any sense to you. The best looking people are usually the most insecure because average is average and above that, or below that we tear down. So you are probably way more attractive than you will ever know, because very few people will ever have the guts to help you feel good about yourself. Sorry but that is how our society works. I once knew a woman who was extraordinarily beautiful and her life sucked because people were jealous of her. It sucks but reality is that pretty or ugly, no one really escapes the pains of life.

Answer 4

I used to have this kind of opinion about myself too. Fortunatly I met a wonderful man who has changed that. He's taught me to love who I am. You don't have to look like models to be beautiful. It's how you feel inside seriously. He's taught me that an average woman can be and feel sexy. If someone tells you you are pretty - believe them. They wouldn't say it if they didn't think so. I still have days when I feel disgusting but slowly I'm learning, with the encouragement and love of my financee that he will love me and think I'm beautiful no matter what. It is a very hard thing to overcome and it takes a person who you can truly trust to help change your opinion of yourself. It will happen. I didn't think there was any hope for me.

Answer 5

Unfortunately nobody can help you with this. You must look within, in order to feel better about yourself. People can tell you that you're pretty until they're "blue in the face", but until you feel worthy...you won't believe them. Your main concern should be that you are generally healthy and in good shape. If you are, then you should read "Does it matter?", by Alan Watts. It will change your whole perspective on life.

Answer 6

Everybody thinks exactly as you do, they just put on their 'outdoor faces' and carry on as best they can. If you want to start to feel better about yourself wear clothing that is yellow, and or orange, yellow is a happy, cheerful colour, will give you a bright outlook on everything, wearing orange colours will give you the energy you require. Talking about models, I personally think that most models are not good looking without wearing piles of make up, they are just plain everyday looking people, just like you and me. Chin up, we ALL have days like these.

Answer 7

I'm gonna bet you're a woman. That's because men never look negatively at themselves. So why do we do it? I bet you look just fine. Quit comparing yourself to skinny models. They aren't happy. That's why they are all on drugs. Look in the mirror and see all the positive things about you. I bet you'll be surprised.

Answer 8

It wouldn't be fair to you if you were to make friend just because of some idea of you. I'd advise you to get good friends who care about who you are. Ignore what isn't true and look at the advantages when things may be true. Perhaps others are just jealous :)

Answer 9

I think we all feel insecure about ourselves at times, and who says that if you did look like that model you would be happy? I'm sure you are a very pretty person.

Answer 10

As a lip model here is the reality..MODELS DONT WAKE UP LIKE THAT!! It is hours of makeup (body make-up), lighting, filters on cameras, angles, back drops,special make-up..i and that is before it goes in for editing to be re-touched, eyelashes added,legs lengthend,hips curved, it goes on and on!! ts is unreal I mean that!! So please dont beat yourself up..Find something that you know is beautiful and focus on that..if you dont by the time you do like what you see, it will be drooping..Take care your beautiful!!! :)