this guy and i r over and have only been over 4 1 month, but i still see him and he is w/ the girl he cheated on me w/
( by saying cheated i mean had sex w/ her) and ev time i see them together i get upset and i try to block wat really happened but it makes it worse... wat can i do to get them outa my mind.. i mean i even have dreams about them being together and them rubbing it in my face and i was at the movies w/ my friends and i saw them there and it ruined my whole night.. i have tried to get it to go away but i jus cant..( i even tried to go out on a date w/ his best friend,but somehow that didnt work either) i always check when he is on aim and his and her info too and i cant seem to stop.. advise plz!
2006-07-26 13:44:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get on with your life.
2006-07-26 13:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, delete both his and her name from your buddy list, cell phone, address book, and anywhere else you might have them. Seeing their names on a regular basis will not make this easier.
Beyond that, you can't stop thinking about something. It's pretty much impossible because the harder you try not to think about something, the more you do. The trick is to find something else to think about instead. Something compltely unrelated to a relationship at all, and anytime your mind starts to wander and thoughts of them come in your mind, think about your other thought. It could be anything like a recent movie you saw, a tough homework problem, a joke you heard. Eventually you'll immediatly start to think of something else anytime you think of them.
The long term solution is to find more people to talk to. Go out into places where there are a lot of people, join chat rooms online, sign up for a club or something. Anything that will allow you to meet new people and keep you occupied, because when you're bored and alone, your first thoughts will be what you would be doing with your ex.
You can't forget your ex's, you can only replace them
2006-07-26 20:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If possible, stop going to places where you'll bump into them, remove them from you AIM buddy list, remove all traces of them. Do stuff that'll keep you're mind occupied and off of them.
It's terrible that something like this happened to you but you'll get over it eventually. If it'll make you feel better, find a really cute guy and make out with him infront of the evil ex!
2006-07-26 21:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people might say how can you still be in love with someone who cheated on you, but its possible. I'm still in love with my ex and he cheated, and lived with me while he was was doing it, but I still love him. Crazy yes, but you can't help what your heart feels, and you can't help how your mind betrays you. All you can do is keep going, and get stronger along the way. Never let them see how much it hurts you, believe me they know what they did was wrong, but you have the good fortune to know what goes around, will always always come around. Karma is a *****.
2006-07-26 21:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by krispykreme335 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a knew guy all he's doing is giveing you he** and you don't neded that in your life!!!1
Move on and find a knew guy!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-26 20:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by ~bubbles~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋