I just dated this incredible girl and we had nothing but an awesome time together. She used to date this guy (who was also her first boyfriend) who was controlling and verbally abusive. They broke up about 3-4 times over. Her friends and parents hate him. She would tell me how she hated the things he did and how she couldn't be his friend. Now we've broken up and they're friends, however she isn't dating him nor really hanging out with him. She's basically shut me out of her life, although she really wanted to be friends and still hang out. I still get the feeling she really misses me (she has to!) but we haven't talked in almost 2 weeks (except brief text message). She even blocked me on AIM (wtf?) yet Im on her top 8 on MySpace (it's been long enough to change it).
Im trying my best with moving on, but am I right in thinking to just be scarce in her life/leave her alone and one day she'll miss me?
2006-07-26 13:40:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that's exactly right my friend.
girls are fickle, but one thing you HAVE to do is not bother her AT ALL. some girls take a step back and observe what kind of guy you are. and if you call her over and over or try to contact her she'll just resent you and she'll just try to get further and further away.
one day she'll call you.. so occupy your time with someone else.
if you stay by yourself waiting around for her.. you'll look desperate and you'll look like you can't get anyone else. you know what I mean?
2006-07-26 15:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jon-Come to your senses. If a girl goes back to an abuser, that means she has terribly low self-esteem. You seem a little young to understand the long term problems that come with that. Take it from someone who has "been around the block" a few times. You need a girl who is confident in herself. I wouldn't be surprised if "this girl" has some major father issues. She has probably not had enough attention from a daddy over the years.
There are so many other fish in the sea. Don't spin your wheels on one that is broken at such a young age. Baggage only gets heavier over time.
2006-07-26 20:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know to find someone else is a hard thing to do, but maybe you should in a couple of weeks if things have not change. Maybe she needs space to completely get that guy out of system, Only time will tell here true intentions for you. But you just need to let her breathe for now. Maybe in the future yaill can get back together,
2006-07-26 20:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and enjoy your freedom. Who cares if she blocked you out. She will come back begging for forgiveness and then your gonna have to decide if you really want her back in your life as a friend or relationship.
If I guessed. I would say she got scared herself and having cold feet because her feelings have grown deeply for you and she was not certain how to deal with them, so she just shut you out.
She will come to her senses and realize what she has given up and who knows what tomorrow will bring.
Live life to the fullest. You only get one chance so don't blow it sitting around feeling sorry for yourself or questioning what you did wrong.
If you have peace in your heart and know you did nothing wrong, then that is all that counts.
Best of luck to you :)
2006-07-26 20:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems like she is a confused girl right now at this moment. Between 2 guys. Ask her if she still wants to be friends when the other dude is not around. sorry this isn't that good of advice
2006-07-26 20:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mazie K. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to get your butt out of the house, go out all the time, travel, have as much fun as you possibly can. Change the phone message, so when she calls, she will hear!
Hey, leave a message, I may be climbing mount everest and can't pick up or (B) I'm having sex.
2006-07-26 20:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard choice but if u really care about her then be there 4 her no matter what. If it means just being her friend then talk to her. U know most relationships were freinds and then they became more. Just tell her that ur there 4 her or talk things out with her.
2006-07-26 20:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just send her a friendly email asking her what's up, that you miss talking to her, but it seems you aren't on her AIM anymore, and you were wondering if it meant anything or was it just an oversight on her part.
If you get no answer. then ignore her - she doesn't even have the decency to say goodbye. If she wanted to dump you, she could have at least told you something plain and obvious with words.
Real people aren't just icons that you click off when you don't want them on your desktop anymore.
2006-07-26 20:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by mb5_ca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes move on in your life and if it was ever ment for the two of you to be together it will happen in the future.Mean while try to get out and have fun and enjoy yourself.
2006-07-26 20:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in this situation is to find someone else so you don't think of her as much. That will help you move on and find love again.
2006-07-26 20:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by basketballprep10a3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋