Need a guy’s opinion on this.
Hypathetically speaking, say you’ve been with a girl for a few years… you even to her town just to move in with her. But as time went on, you’ve became unhappy. You may get along but the attraction is gone… not to mention your girlfriend is bi. But in between all of this, you meet the right girl. Not only do you and the other girl have that physical and emotional connection, but you’re at your happiest with her. But because you didn’t want to hurt your girlfriend, you let the other girl go. Then a few years later, you found the the other girl. However, you came too little too late. She’s began dating another guy. She's gets along with her new boyfriend but doesn’t have that same connection she had with you. Despite it all, you still say to yourself that you love your girlfriend, even if you’re not completely happy with her.
Guys (and ladies), how would you make for this situation. Can you stay with someone you're not happy with?
2006-07-26 13:22:26 · 14 answers · asked by Bibi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If i'm understanding you right. You and this girl are not married which makes things a bit easier for you. You do your self more harm, than good by staying in a relationship that have been dead a long time ago.
Even people that are married over time lose interest in each other as the spark and attraction is not there any more. The longer you push this situation under the carpet, the more depress you will become.
The Danger in your situation is the effect on your health in the long run. If you don't become Proactive and get out of a pathetic relationship a silent killer will attack your health and in the long run you will pay the price for staying in a sick relationship that have become a cancer for you.
You should not have let this girl that makes you happy to leave in the first place and stay in a quagmire relationship. Right now she is with some one else and you should not try and make back with her.
You shot your self in the foot by not being proactive and in letting her slip thorugh your fingers. This is some thing you will have to leave with as finding some one to make you happy is not an easy thing to find.
The decison is yours to make as you don't want some one else to come around and you are still in that pathetic relationship you are in right now. I know that it is painful, and the longer you delay this the more difficult it will become to break up. There is no easy solution to your situation as you are the one to make the call.
2006-07-26 13:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Premio 4 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Hi,I,m a guy.
Sometimes people will go through different phases in their life that are really confusing. Happiness depends a whole lot on yourself and what you make out of what you have. If a person continually focuses on what they could have had and what a bad situation they are presently in then they will not be happy regardless of what pleasures life sends their way. "the grass is greener on the other side" usually when people get to the other side the grass will die.That spark and romance that last for severely years for most couples will eventually die.Hence the song lyrics "life goes on long after the thrill of living is gone".
2006-07-26 13:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by moccian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have two girlfriends. one that ive been with for 2+ years, and the other going on 2 months. the attraction is gone with the 2+ years girl. its just not the same. this new one i think might be the one...the one i dump the old one for of course.
anyway, im unhappy. i dont want to be with girlfriend #1, but she's violent, and i know if i dump er i will miss the crazy good sex we've had. and i havent even had sex with girlfriend #2 yet.
so to answer your question, yes a guy can stay with someone hes not happy with. but only until hes found something better to move on to.
2006-07-26 13:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what my ex did, marry the right girl. As much as I was hurt when I found out, he is happily married to her and they have a beautiful son. I've gotten on with my life and have 2 beautiful boys and am married to the love of my life. I thought he was the one, but he knew better and found the one for him. Let her go. If you don't really love her, you're not only hurting yourself by letting the one you really love get away, but you're keeping your girlfriend from having the opportunity to find true love as well. I really think, if you're sure about the other girl, you should go for it. You only get to live once. If the girlfriend is your true love, then you two will be lead back to one another later, just like with the other girl. Go for it. Your girlfriend will hate you for a while, but she'll get over it. I promise. Do what is right for you. You'll never know for sure if you don't give it a shot, will you?
Good luck.
2006-07-26 13:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lanie Janie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually can stay with someone you're not happy with, i believe out of pity fir yourself and becasue of you feel sorry for your b/g / g/f. I mean opportunites come and go and loosing that one "perfect" girl was a mistake. So to answer: yes you can but it is not the smart thing to do. Its leading the relationship nowhere!
2006-07-26 13:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by j_deonarain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, life goes on. Why should I cheat myself. The important thing is that I tried with this person and it didnt work, but it doesnt mean that I have to continue abusing myself by staying with them. Next thing I'm on the ten o'clock news for domestic violence.lolllllll
2006-07-26 13:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be able to keep a guy in place he is not happy. He might be with you for a while... but sooner or later he will leave you in search of that thing that makes him happy. I am sorry that you find yourself in this situation...
2006-07-26 13:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by Eric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate seeing women in this situation and so confused when it's so simple...
MOVE ON!
There are so many guys out there ready to sweep you off your feet (nice and sweet), that you don't know what you're missing
If you're not happy then how is it logical to stay with that person?
2006-07-26 13:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by benh316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people do, but usually end in divorce in the long term.
Marriage is simply this: "How much can you tollerate from another person".
2006-07-26 13:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant lose on both sides so i gues i wil ve to endure.....being singlle is not really the in thing
2006-07-26 13:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋