My son will listen to what other people tell him and when i tell him something, He goes and tells everyone!! I don't understand it!! I am his mother and I have always been there for him. It hurts my feelings to know that I can't trust him,he blabs everything, he's 9 , What do I do?
2006-07-26 13:19:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hey- your son is nine! It's his job to talk! Don't tell him things you don't want other people to know. It's not his job to keep secrets for you, if that's what you're trying to get him to do. He's just not old enough yet to understand. Talk to an adult. They should have the maturity and responsibility you are looking for.
2006-07-26 13:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by aroserequiem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is testing his boundaries with you. He will listen to others because he isn't sure what they will do if he doesn't. With you he already knows what you will and will not do and he is seeing how far he can push you. Which is totally normal by the way.
As far as him telling everyone everything, that is normal too. He is just blabbing because that is what 9 year old boys do and he probably doesn't even know he is doing it.
And yes, you have always been there for him and he knows that you will be which is good because that is the way it should be.
Just be glad your not talking about a girl because once they start blabbing they don't stop and no matter how many times you tell them not to, they will do it any ways. They just can't help themselves. LOL
2006-07-26 20:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't mean you're "confiding" in your son about your own issues. A nine-year-old cannot help you with your problems. He is not your age, not your mental/emotional level. He is a child, and this is why he "blabs." To him, your serious issues are no more important than a cartoon. It may also be that he's trying to find someone to listen to you so he won't have to. Let him be a child, and find yourself a lover, friend, or therapist.
2006-07-26 20:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'm not trying to be mean here, but why would you tell your son things that you are embarrassed to have him repeat?
Do you really think you are on the right side of trust if you are backstabbing other people?
Evaluate your communications that you have with him.
What other forms of communication can you have with him that will broaden his knowledge of the world, or help him appreciate various forms of art, music, literature, ethics, social skills, nature, spirituality, reading, learning, thinking, understanding.
If this is the time in his life when his mind is most open and willing to accept knowledge, feed his mind with good stuff.
Imagine him reciting the basis of quantum physics, and when someone asks him where he learned about that, he says, "My mommy told me about it.". ;-)
Peace
2006-07-26 20:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Gonzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At nine years old didn't you repeat everything that you heard. Kids talk and what we know to be a private matter is just conversation to them after all he is 9. Try watching what you say around him and to him and don't say anything or do anything that you don't want others to know about. He isnt being disloyal just being a kid.
2006-07-26 20:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER SAY, anything that you don't want your
children to repeat especially if it is about someone that he knows you dislike, at age nine I don't think that he understands loyalty but if you really want to give him some of his own medicine bring up some of the more embarrassing things that he might not want anyone to know this should cure his loose lip problem.
2006-07-26 21:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, he can take it, the little weasel.I am always honest with my kids about my feelings, and even though the truth hurts a little, they know how i feel.Teach him some empathy.
2006-07-26 20:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Just Gone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a normal kid, these days. They get older sooner now, you know?
Continue to do what you're doing, and eventually, he'll come to his senses. Don't tell him anything that you don't want the entire world to know, either.
2006-07-26 20:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the age and it only gets harder i have been having the same kinds of problems with my daughter since she was about 5 years old
2006-07-26 20:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by christie d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax! He`s just being a kid! Do, however, try to instill loyalty in him, it`s a great quality to have.
2006-07-26 20:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋