Am I a lesbian?

Question

I had a fight with a girl that ended up in us having sex and
I've always got tingly down there when I wrestled with my sisters. My mom said no, because she used to wrestle her sisters growing up all the time and got tingly too. She says it means nothing. We are a Christian family. My friend says yes and stopped talking to me . Please help.

Answer 1

You may be, or it may have been a one time thing, or you could be bi. Instead of focusing on what gender you want to date, see who you want to date. If they are interested in you, go for it, regardless if they are male or female. If you tend to like girls more, you probably are bi or a lesbian. Being from a good Christian family will not make you any more or less gay or straight, it just may make it harder for you to come out of the closet.

Answer 2

Your mom is probably a lesbian too, but being a Christian has stopped her from admitting it, to herself and the world. Your friends evidentally aren't friends if they are going to drop you just because you got "tingly" when wrestling with your sisters. A lot of girls experiment. The only person who knows if you are a lesbian is you. Did you really enjoy your experience? Would you really like to do it again? If the answers are yes, then you may be a lesbian, or you may be bi. There is more than a black and white answer here. You are the only person who knows what you enjoy and whether you are physcially and sexually attracted to women. Don't worry about your mom. Christians have a tendency to have a closed mind when it comes to alternate lifestyles. No matter if you are lesbian or not, your mom will always love you. Promise.

Good luck getting it all figured out.

Answer 3

I think you will find out soon enough. You will know in your heart if you want to be with a female or a male. There are even women who like both , but if you were a lesbian you would want to be with women and only women, and thats not a bad thing. Some of the greatest women today are lesbians. I used to get the same feelings when I was growing up about girls too and yep today I am with a female and we are very Happy.

Answer 4

No, this does not mean you *are* a lesbian.

However, this may be a good time to reflect on your past. Which gender to you find yourself attracted to? Male? Female? Both?

Regardless of the answer you find: IT'S OKAY!

Take the time to really embrace and explore this. Not everybody does, and a fair number of people end up regretting it, or hurting others in the process when they deny how and what they feel.

As for your friends and family, if they can not accept you for who you are, then it's time to find new friends and family. Sorry, but life's too short for that kind of crap.

Answer 5

maybe...maybe not...if you still like guys then youre probably straight or maybe bisexual...although having sex with a girl is pretty extreme...but your friend wa wrong to stop talking to you because she thinks your a lesbian...thats not right at all...and a lot of girls get tingly sometimes just from everyday things..it doesnt make you a lesbian.

Answer 6

You may want to look closer at why you feel the need to become closer to women and if you ever had these feelings before. Chances are you could be a curious person looking to resolve some questions. Be brave and try to see who you are attracted to. It takes a lot of confidence in order to find who you are and who you are attracted to. Good Luck.

Answer 7

if u never done it with a guy then u cannot say ur a lesbian ...gurl do get tingly down there when they rub on something even ridin a horse so get that out of ur mind cause ur not..

Answer 8

That's hot. No you're not because it's just the sper of the moment!! Maybe you get a different feeling if you wrestle with a guy? I do not know.

Answer 9

yep, you are a carpet muncher. did mom say she had sex after wrestling her sisters? did you tell her you did? I don't think it's related to the tingling genitals. I think it's related to girl on girl sex. if a guy sucked a penis would that make him homo, I think most would agree it did. ok with that in mind, if jesus sucked a penis, would you have a different opinion of him? you are trying to justify it for yourself. look at the bigger picture.

Answer 10

I think that you need to quit worrying about what other people think and want you to be, and just be yourself no matter what that is. Only you know what you like and what you don't and what other people think should fall way down at the bottom of the list.