i was involved with an older man who said i am naive in that i don't know how to "use" my sexuality. i am perplexed by this. does this mean to manipulate? to earn money? apparantly "giving it away for nothing"i am selling myself short
2006-07-26 13:02:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well ( as an older man ) I would suggest that you are a very feminine and alluring lady but, by all accounts, failing to use that allure to 'your advantage'. That certainly doesn't mean selling yourself or acting like a vamp, what it does mean is simply to have confidence in your own sexuality, or sexiness if that sounds more appropriate, and act out with that confidence. It is assumed that all attractive women know it and act like they know it ... I think in your case, you are attractive but perhaps act with a certain amount of lack of confidence within yourself .... when in fact you have every reason to be confident in your looks etc. I guess you have to learn to love yourself first, build your self up within your own mind and show a new confidence in the way that you project your very femininity. Am I making sense here?
2006-07-26 13:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
The old man who told you that viewed people as something to be used. What he was saying is that you could get you a sugar daddy, not even do anything sexual, just flirt and tease for example and be needy and they'll hand over the money. Doesn't even have to be old, most guys will do it if you bat your eyes just right and look pretty enough.
The question is could you do that without feeling soiled? Would the economics be worth it? It's one thing to flirt with the world like and actress or a model does, a whole other thing to use somebody else. So it's not naivity unless you want to use people and didn't know how. It's just being a decent person. You'll feel better about stuff if you earn it and if you are geniune with people they'll be genuine with you.
2006-07-26 20:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by draciron 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well giving it away makes you a ****. Giving it away for money or other material goods makes you a prostitute. What's he's trying to say is that you can get higher up in the work force by flaunting your chest, legs, and ***. Basically, that works if your boss is a perverted male. Alot of women use their body to their advantage, without having to give their bosses BJ's or sex. However, it's all wrong if you ask me, because it's like cheating. Taking shortcuts will only screw your over in the end.
2006-07-26 20:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by FIONEX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was right. You need to enroll in my school of "How to use your Sexuality right class". The course is free if you qualify. ASSistance is also available. We provide you with all The Equipment needed to COME to the class and LAY down your books and STAND up tight for what you believe you need to get out of this class. Schedule is pretty TIGHT. We do however allow for WET days and will credit you for days when the wind BLOWS strong.
Please please give me the best answer . I need it bad !!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-26 20:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by MiKe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it simply means get to know ur strong points and appreciate them.and give less concern to ur weak ones.
but it all depend on the perspective of the discussion u were having tat made him voice out that thot
2006-07-26 20:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its yr body .dont abuse it for the sake of any 1 even a older man. yr sexuality will come when yr happy and content trust me i am a older man u will find yr sexuality
2006-07-27 05:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's more focused on your sexuality than on your humanity. Be glad that he's your ex-boyfriend.
2006-07-26 20:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're perfect the way you're, you don't wanna do that. it's not for financial reasons, it for passionate loving. he is a jerk, you better of with him, he think of you as a marketing piss of art, bullsh*t. oh, and another thing, you not giving it away for nothing, you've got your own reasons and money is not one of them. chest up, be proud of who you are now.
2006-07-26 20:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by tender-boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk...don't listen to him. He wants to turn you into a ****. Keep yourself respect and earn whatever by your intelligence and hard work!
2006-07-26 20:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by Author Al 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol... keep in mind that an EX-boyfriend is giving you this advice.
2006-07-26 20:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋