Here's the situation. He loves parties, which is fine. But, when he takes me, and these are parties given by people he works with so I don't really know them well, he seems to forget I've come with him. He goes off and does his own thing. He can't stand to leave unless he is the last person and he wants to be in charge of all the clean-up. I usually need to hire a babysitter, so I can't stay until the bitter end. Several times I have had to leave alone because he can't bear the thought that he might miss "something". He was single for a long time (he's 62, I'm 50) and he still thinks like a single guy.
He has a party this Saturday, and I don't want to go. I'm trying to be a good sport, but I'm tired of this treatment. Am I wrong to feel this way? What should I do?
2006-07-26 12:58:47 · 11 answers · asked by chicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would not go. He probably doesn't even want you to. It sounds like he does not deserve to have a partner. If he starts to miss having you with him, his behavior may change, to encourage you to go along. If not... then you'll have to decide if you want to be with somebody who would rather party than be with you.
2006-07-26 13:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are entitled to the way you feel. I think it is very rude on his part to take you to these functions and leave you to your own devices. I don;t think a couple needs to stay glued to eachother at a party but if you are taking your sig. other to a party where they will not know anyone you should be polite and respectful enough to introduce them around so that they may strike up a conversation with someone if you want to "do your own thing" I also find it incredibly rude that you should have to leave these things alone, it is very inconsiderate on his part. If I were you I would go out and start doing things without him....eventually he will get the hint. Go out with some friends for dinner and drinks have a good time if he remains clueless than you don't need someone like him whom only seems to think of himself and is oblivious to how you his partner feels.
2006-07-26 20:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to keep gonging to these parties with him, but only when you feel like going with him, and when you do go, get to know some of the people he know, mangle in other words. And if you like to leave, tell him to take you home and come back by himself after all your there to party not to clean up, he's 62 and your 50 keep up the good work he not going anywhere, he just doing his job to keep young. And you go out and party with the girl's sometimes.
2006-07-26 21:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by jeannette552004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guys is 62, he should be mature enough to think about you and your feelings. His behavior makes him sound very immature. How long have you been with him? Maybe he's not ready to settle down. You shouldn't put up that kind of behavior from him. Have you talked to him about this? Maybe he doesn't know how you feel. If after you talked to him and he still behave the same way, you should seriously consider taking a break. Both of you are not young, and don't have to deal with this kind of treatment.
2006-07-26 20:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by peta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy doesn't seem to have much respect for you. That is not something you need. He needs to grow up! At the very very least, he should pay for the babysitter!
2006-07-26 20:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by amomentssunlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and have fun. Tell him you spending the evening with your girlfriends and that you'll see him when he gets home. Then actually go out with friends and have a good time. Even relationships need space sometimes.
2006-07-26 20:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by dr. misako 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why do you need to go with him? let him go by himself since he is the only one enjoying the party.. but if you want to be always with him then why not try to make friends with his co workers girlfriends or wives so you'll feel you belong...it is just how you will handle the situtation..if that's the reality then face it because you love him..
2006-07-26 20:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by amber200271 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay home if thats what I wanted to do. He has his life and wants to party all night let him. there are other fish in the sea
2006-07-26 20:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by HastyBabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you feel this way. If you don't want too, lie your butt off. Either one works out in the end.
2006-07-26 20:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by shoutitout_spongebob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong for feelin that way. If you think that he's not respecting you then you should break up with him & find a better mind.
2006-07-26 20:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋