2006-07-26 12:57:43 · 20 answers · asked by ash 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
if the problem extends only that far, then I wouldn't think too much of it except to surround yourself with a good group of friends and let them be your support group. However, if calling you fat is only one of many "abusive" things they do to you, seek advice from your guidance conselor at school. They may be able to help you directly (meet with you once a week to vent, express feelings) or they may get outside help for you (have you sit with the school social worker, contact DCF if extreme). Whatever they do, they will protect you, respect your privacy and confidentiality will be there for you. You don't deserve to be treated like that and certainly don't have accept it and let it remain unaddressed. Best of luck.
Take the high road though, cussing your dad out or retaliating in some way will only aggrivate the situation and won't solve the problem. Also, you could talk to a doctor and they will help by suggesting certain exercises and healthy diets, even if you aren't fat as your step mom and dad disrespectively call you.
2006-07-26 13:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by dshcpa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends, if you're fat of your own doing (as in you go out and buy crap food and stuff your face), ask them why they go out of their way to intentionally hurt their own child.
If you do all your eating at home based on the foods your parents buy, tell them to stop buying crap and start buying food that's healthier.
In the end you can't blame your parents for your own condition though - in the end your personal weight is your own fault. It's an insensitive thing to say as a parent but the same time they may be frustrated and are resorting to trying to shame you into losing weight. Try to determine why they are calling you fat - as in are their motivations to help you or simply to hurt your feelings. Although as insensitive as some of the other answers have been the sure fire thing to do is lose weight - or you could take it a step further and actually get in shape a kick their butts.
2006-07-26 13:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by timhda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't there, so I can only make the following comments:
It really depends on how they said it. If they just coldly blurted that statement out, then I'd say that was cruel. Statements like that are not helpful in any way.
But if they said it in a caring way and followed up with attempts at supporting you in making some lifestyle changes, then I'd accept it as a loving attempt at helping you.
The sooner you actively start trying to turn around your unhealthy habits, the more likely you are to successfully control your life before your habits control you.
2006-07-26 13:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell then that they're being insulting and hurtful and that if they are concerned about your health, there are much better ways of helping you...by supporting you.
Also, If you are fat/overweight and don't like hearing the non-sugar coated description, do something about it. If you don't think you could go at it alone, ask them to make an appointment to discuss it with your doctor.
2006-07-26 13:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Syrann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who are they to judge your body? i think "fat" is not a really nice word to use. Maybe they wanted to say that you are a little bit overweight and that they are concerned about your weight. BUt it is all up to you . YOu decide if you are overweight or not. They are not to decide that. I recommend you to check out a fitness page or consult a nutritionist so that he or she can tell you if you are really overweight and if you are dont worry you can get rid of it with pereseverance and discipline. But if you dont like them calling you "fat" i think you should talk to them about that and talk to them about the way you feel about them making remarks about your body.
2006-07-26 13:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore them u tell urself if ur fat not ur parents dont let their opinion tell u who u are or what u should be
u can be pretty and confident no matter what size u are
2006-07-26 13:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuss your dad out for letting another woman disrespect his daughter like that.
I know it'll be hard, but try to ignore them because they are ignorant. They should never call you names or ridicule you. . . even if you are a little chunky because they can scar you to where you will have lasting low self-esteem and/or confidence problems.
2006-07-26 13:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Razzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prove them wrong. this article has a weight mass index that will tell you the weight you should be for yr height. if you do need to lose some lbs then there are also weight loss programs
2006-07-26 13:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents have always told me that i was fat but i do think they don't mean it to offend me but more to help me realize that it is unhealthy. i think you should not take as negative criticism but use it to your advantage. tell them instead of all talk how about some action. ask them how do u think i can solve this problem and how are they going to help.
2006-07-26 13:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by ate_daryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're overweight...change your diet and hit the gym. Check with a doctor if you're unhealthily overweight
If they're just being jerks...ignore them.
2006-07-26 13:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by Pericoli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋