2006-07-26 12:29:53 · 54 answers · asked by raidergirlmissy75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My finacee' tried to apologize for a miscommuncation and he didnt do a good job, after he said he was sorry in a angry voice he chose to place blame on me of why he was mad in the first place...that made the situation a whole lot worse and now we are not talking, the converstation ended with both of us just walking away angry and the apology meant nothing to me!
2006-07-26 12:34:45 · update #1
Should I let it go or make him suffer!!!
2006-07-26 12:39:17 · update #2
Would you except a shitty apology from someone!!!
2006-07-26 12:39:51 · update #3
First... do it in person...
Second... tell them exactly WHY you did wrong...
Third... say I'm SO SORRY...
Forth.... offer to make it up to them in some way...
Fifth... resolve to never do it again.
Sixth... thank them... if they forgive you.
2006-07-26 12:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
First, avoid the words "if", "but", and "maybe." IF I hurt you...then I'm sorry...BUT I was tired that day...MAYBE I shouldn't have done that... See? It negates the entire apology. Never say those words. Admit what you did fully without making excuses for yourself. Openly admit the level of pain that you caused the other person. Don't make them have to say it. Show that you understand. Then listen to that person say it anyway. Be willing to accept any consequences for what you did...i.e. loss of trust, loss of income...etc., and don't ever get offended by the other person's offense at you. If you are apologizing, they have a right to be angry with you on some level. Accept it. Promise fully that you will never do this again, and set up some method in your life to ensure that is the case....for example, find someone to ask you about this area on a weekly basis and to hold you accountable. Tell the person you are apologizing to what you are doing in your life to ensure that it will not happen again. Then ask the person to forgive you. And be prepared that this one conversation may or may not be the end of the story for the other person. They might have to ask you about it several times. Maybe God has the ability to forgive and forget, but we don't.
Thank you for asking. That is a GREAT question!
BTW, how to forgive would be the follow-up question. Here's the key: Understanding that I have the right to hold this against you, but I choose not to. Forgiveness is simply a decision that I have the right to make or to not make. I do not forgive when I "feel it." That feeling is called healing, and it comes much later.
2006-07-26 12:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet in a private location. Somewhere away from distractions and eavesdroppers. Let that person know you were wrong. Tell that person how sincerely sorry you are for whatever it is you did/said. Tears help. It makes it even more sincere, but don't be a whiny crybaby about it.
2006-07-26 12:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by aprilc232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sincerely explain that you know what you did was wrong, that you are sorry that it hurt the other person, and that you will try not to let it happen again because you don't want to cause the other person pain. This only works if you are truly repentant and have it in your power to not let it happen again. May God bless and keep you.
2006-07-26 12:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by blowry007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look them in the eyes for starters. You can tell if someone is really sorry. You just can. There actions give it away.
When saying sorry to someone, I devout 110% attention to that person, look them straight in the eyes, and beg for forgiveness.
Well, okay I don't beg, but you get the gist.
2006-07-26 12:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
- Sending a not very long email, to convey your apology.
- Sending them an e-card or just a card for an apology.
- Apologizing directly followed by dinner.
- Doing the deed with them.
2006-07-26 12:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by synapse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In person, saying you are sorry, and not making excuses. You offer your apology and give the other person the space to decide whether or not to accept your apology.
2006-07-26 12:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sincerely
2006-07-26 12:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a humble way I guess because that shows sincerity. Maybe that's just the way I do and fortunately I haven't got any friends from webdate_dot_com got mad at me long time.
2006-07-29 20:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by edz1624 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation. The more wrong you are the more yuo have to show you are sorry.
But don't use liek "WELL SORRY"
Yuo gotta be sincere.
One mroe thign if the person you apolgizing to is a total jerk don't. But be careful on that.
2006-07-26 12:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by rpm810@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only "proper" way is to actually be sorry, mean the apology and convey that meaning in what you say.
2006-07-26 12:33:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋