I had sex with my best friends boyfriend and she dosent know how do i tell her i need awnsers !!! HELP!!!
2006-07-26 12:25:29 · 17 answers · asked by adrianna s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly sweetie I don't know why you did it, From what I read, you care a lot about your best friend which is a big plus it shows you have a conscience there is no reason to explain how since it has already happened. Look at it this way if you tell her obviously she is going to be indifferent and push you away for doing that to her because she IS your best friend. On the other hand if you tell her she may still feel hardships about what you did but you will no one the less respect you for being a woman and telling her though its going to hurt her feelings. Honesty may even seem wrong but I will share this, it may be wrong to just tell it, but it will take a lot of weight, guilt and worries from your heart.
2006-07-26 12:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by mzpanther205 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did the same thing to a dear and true friend of mine when i was in my teens. I must say that you now better and it was not worth it to me. I lost her for about 3 years out of my life.....we are still struggling but we have moved on past that as of today....it will not be easy but its better coming from you than someone else....please tell her soon before someone else says something.....i truly hope that you both can move past it and it will hurt you but remember she will remember that you where honest,,,,but she will never forget what you did...she probably will not trust you any more and a friendship is a hard thing to lost but you did something that is wrong and you now it...I'm so sorry that this has happened to her...and if her boyfriend and you loved her that much it would not have happened....but if you really love her step up and tell her...what if it was you.....please remember i was there and it was during school. I had a hard road after that but i hope that you never do this again ...its a hard lesson that i have never forgotten.....peace and good luck.....talk to her in private...its better so that she will not be publicly scared and it will be better to take her words with no one looking at you other than her.....good luck....
2006-07-26 12:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Vanessa w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you shouldn't have been sleeping with him. (sorry had to say that) she's your friend...she should be loyal to her, not this guy. Buds before studs, remembert hat rule? You should just tell her. Say you make a stupid mistake and it's okay if she never forgives you, cause that's what you deserve. Yous hould pray for some real answers, but right now, you should be worried about getting your friend back, and then make sure your friend doesn't let this guy off the hook either...p.s good luck i know how hard it is to admit your mistakes...
2006-07-26 12:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of consequences? you claim that she is your best friend, I argue that best friends would never sleep with their friend's boyfriend. You have to tell her and you absolutely MUST NOT argue back, make excuses or try to apologize. YOU messed up! You turned your back on a friendship and that is a lousy thing to do....I surely hope that you read and understand that female, true female friendships come few and far between....and you never EVER hurt a real girl friend. Your friend deserves better!
2006-07-26 12:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should feel horrible for betraying your 'so called' best friend. if you want to keep your friendship, then you wouldn't tell her. but, if you have a conscience (which it doesn't appear that you do) you would let her know what kind of man she is calling her boyfriend instead of letting her walk around looking like a fool.
2006-07-26 12:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by kalola_iz_karamel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth wont set you free.it will cost you your friend.i would keep my mouth shut and get on with my day.i know hes not gonna tell her.you have already proven to your self that you are not trustworthy,why hurt her if you dont have to.after something like that she will probably have trust issues that will follow her for the rest of her life,and will probably leave her unable to have normal relationships again.do her and yourself a huge favor....keep off her man and zip your lip.
2006-07-26 12:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be honest and straightforward with her. Prepare to lose a friend, and also prepare to face a lot of regret. Nothing easy, nothing sugar-coated. This is not going to be fun or easy.
2006-07-26 12:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by King Matthew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I know is that he won't tell her...so you shouldn't either and you shouldn't do it again....Do you like this guy? Does he mean more to you than your best friend?
2006-07-26 12:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to be a straight shooter and tell her but you will loose both of them. Sorry.
2006-07-26 12:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Big Mak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u had enough guts to do it, u should have enough guts to tell her.
and do expect her to stay ur friend afterwards either, thats the worst thing a friend could do, especially if they trust you.
2006-07-26 12:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by Moe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋