a lot of people do it a lot of people think it's wrong...what do u think?
2006-07-26 12:24:29 · 38 answers · asked by BreeADV 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Wrong
2006-07-26 12:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by PREACHER'S WIFE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wrong. My body was given to me by God. It is a gift, a temple if you will. As such, it needs to be respected and taken care of. I don't believe in sex before marriage. Didn't have sex until I was married. I also don't smoke, drink- even coffee and tea, wear immodest clothing, try not to swear, and believe in the golden rule.
Others can do what they will, but for me, it was about true love and allowing the person I loved the most to have me, and only him. It was a sign of my love to him to wait. It was tough, don't get me wrong. There were many times that I wanted to give in, but I held tight to my beliefs and didn't allow others to use me for their pleasure.
My husband also was a virgin on our wedding day.
Anyone that says that sex can break a marriage, doesn't really believe that the marriage will survive anyway. If neither of you have had sex before, then you don't know what to expect and so you learn together. There is nothing wrong with that.
We each have to make the choice for ourselves. For me, it was to wait until marriage. And yes, I do know some over 40 year old virgins who are prefectly happy to stay that way.
2006-07-26 12:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by odd duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have as much sex with as many people as you can before you get married. If you don't you will be wondering if everyone is as boring as this one person you are stuck with. You will end up in a divorce if you don't. Or you will have sex with other people after you are married. Best to not get married and just live together so you can leave when it gets old. You will leave it will happen.
2006-07-26 12:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its wrong when you are with your bf/gf and you both choose to do it. God did not create us to be celebate, we are not able to function in that way. Sex is a good, clean and healthy thing.
If sex has to do with Holiness then you are works based. Jesus told the religious experts that the greatest command is to Love God, love others as yourself. God looks at the heart not what we do or don't do. Sex has nothing to do with our salvation in the sense that you want to do what is natural. Also fornication has been misconstrued in the meaning of sex, its the mistreatment via some act. Its not the act itself that is unclean but the "UNFAITHFULNESS" involved in the act that makes it unclean. Sex becomes "fornication" only when it involves unfaithfulness to another person. Sin is when you intentionally harm a person hence rape, murder, cheating, lying, or whatever. If love was your true motivation then you wouldn't do those things to harm others.
2006-07-26 12:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by AlwaysLaughing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found that as I get older and I've been in several long term relationships, that sex before marriage is Essential! Sexual compatibility can make or break a long-term relationshiop. It's the one area that will make an unsatisfied partner stray the fastest.
2006-07-26 12:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Molly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Christian or Catholic, so I think it's ok. The thing is I'd only have sex when my partner and I are both ready, mature enough, and in love. I'd never have sex with my boyfriend just cause we are dating. Love is most important to me, but it has nothing to do with waiting till after marriage. Besides, it wouldn't be fun on your wedding night if you were still a virgin. :P
2006-07-26 12:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The origin of not having sex before marriage is because it is a preventive rule to avoid children without a father and a mother committed to raise them. another reason is to get married with someone with no experience , and build it with the one you decide to have family with.
2006-07-26 14:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by jose m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled.... If the marriage bed is undefiled then that means that sex outside of marriage is defiled..... Before I was saved I did not see anything wrong with it .... but through the word... I have learned differently
2006-07-26 12:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Chokolate Chip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The marital act is reserved for marriage alone. It is sacred and beautiful and life giving inside of marriage but is a mortal sin of lust outside of marriage.
2006-07-26 12:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its funner than after marriage.
"Before marriage you can have all the sex you want! After marriage you're on some kind of ration"
- DL Hugely
2006-07-26 12:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋