my mom is cheating on dad ...?

Question

what should i do?
she told me she'll kill herself if i tell dad . she was crying and was really serious. i dont know what her problem is
my dad really loves her . i cant sleep at nights .
what should i do with her? she always bring that guy home when dad is at work

Answer 1

tell him

Answer 2

I am so sorry for you that your mom would put you in such a position. She should not be bringing other men into your home, especially in front of you. You know what she is doing is wrong and that your Dad doesn't deserve it, so I wouldn't tell him directly, but I would tell someone. Maybe another family member that can get through to your mom and help her to tell your dad herself or even a school counselor or someone like that. This is not something that you should be dealing with, and is so unfair that you are being forced to keep a secret like this from your father, and at the same time worrying about your mother. Just remember when you grow up that you don't want to make the same mistakes she has. Good luck sweetie and I hope things get better for you!

Answer 3

I don't think you should have been involved! I also think that your Mother should find somewhere else to spend time with her lover as it is very disrespectful of her marital home but most importantly of you! If she doesn't want you to talk out to your father, she should not put your nose in something that is obviously causing you much pain and torment!
Is there anyone else that you can talk to that will keep this quiet, like a teacher, or school counselor? I think you need some real support, face to face with someone that can help you reach the right decision.
I truly wish you luck with this because I'm not sure there is a right way to handle it as to talk or not to talk, well they both have consequences which I'm sure is what helps keep you awake at night. Find someone near and if possible, even try talking with your mom about him being there in your Dads absence and let her know exactly how she has made you feel and what a really difficult position her actions have placed you in!

Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm sorry but I don't believe in cheating at all and in any. And the fact that your mom is doing this right in front of you, that is so wrong of her to do that. It is effecting you emotionally now on top of that.

Is there any way possible that you could call your dad when that man is there with your mom and ask him to come home? There are ways of setting your mom up so to speak for your dad to find out that she is cheating on him with out you really telling him. Does this guy come over at a certain time every day or on certain days. If you know for sure when he is going to be there, I would ask you dad to please come home on the certain day and certain time, that you have a surprise for him. But he does need to know what she is doing to him. And further more she is not going to kill her self. No mother should ever tell their child something like that at all.

She is setting a bad example for you and your dad does need to know!!!! If you need some one to talk to me, I am a good listener, I promise.

Answer 5

The best thing you can do is keep silent. The reason for this is becuase you are not a source of the problem - you are merely a carrier, a medium. One who has knowledge of the problem. If you do intervene then you might cause more destruction, and in doing so might feel even worse. The best you can do is let things happen and if thing seem calm enough, and people like your dad do ask you questions (and knows that your mom has been cheating), only THEN should you speak. But I strongly advise against starting the conversation yourself.

Answer 6

Your mother is wrong for putting you in the middle of this. You need to do what is right for you and if you can't sleep at night you need to tell him or someone that can help you to let your dad know. Yes there are pros and cons to telling him but you and dad really don't deserve to be treated like this.

Answer 7

You are the child, she is the parent. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS HORRIBLE SITUATION. With that being said, you should tell your mom that you will keep this information to yourself IF she will not bring the other guy to your family home. That will at least make it more difficult for them. You should tell her that you love her but that you disapprove and are disappointed that she is hurting your father. Just be there for your dad, because this will come out and when it does he will need you.

Answer 8

Don't tell your dad yet! Try and make it difficult for her when this chap comes round. Always be there. If it continues, then give her an ultimatum. Finish it or you'll tell your dad, but make sure you have evidence to back it up or he won't believe you and you'll be seen as a trouble maker. But remember, you don't know what goes on behind closed doors. Your parents may be putting on an act for your sake, they may not be as happy as you think!

Answer 9

sweety dont tell ur dad, try hinting it to him some how. or just tell ur mom that if she doesnt tell him u will. be strong. what she is doing is not right and it is not fair to u to keep such a secret. or type a letter as a stranger and sent it to ur dad abt what is happening. i think he has all the right to know. and as for ur mom i dont think she will kill herself. especially after u saw her cheating and she is countiuing it with this guy

Answer 10

You should tell your mom how much it upsets you that you have to keep secrets from your father, and that you hate being forced to live in a lie by being threatened with the loss of a mother. Make sure to express to her just how much the situation is depressing your life.

Answer 11

She shouldn't be doing that in front of you, period. She's disrespecting you and your dad, and any of your siblings if you have them.

She wants to get caught though. If you can manage to get your dad home from work when she's not expecting him to be there, he just might catch her in the act.

Hope things work out in your family. Please know this is NOT how act when you're an adult!!!