We have been dating for over a year and we have been fighting alot. Were in college and it puts stress on us. He has been acting different and wanting to spend time with his friends more. I figured he needs space. Something is going on, maybe a stage. He wants his freedom right now. I dont necessarily want to make him jealous. But how can I get him to realize how much he loves me again?
2006-07-26 11:55:45 · 28 answers · asked by amtech33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, there isn't anything you can do to make him realize anything. The best thing for you to do is NOTHING. Act like it doesn't bother you at all. And go on with your life. If you keep trying to persue something with him, you're going to remain on the back burner because he knows he can have you at any time. Don't make yourself readily available to him. Give him a chance to miss you.
Then again... he's given you all of the information you need. He wants his freedom. Whats to hang out with his friends. Been acting different. Fighting a lot. Like that one book says "He's just not that into YOU". No one wants a girl who acts like she's desperate. Realize that YOU are a prize! If he doesn't recognize that, let him go and make room for someone who can.
2006-07-26 12:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted his space, there's nothing you can do about it. Don't try to make him jealous. You need to realize that it's probably over. Maybe he found someone new. College is a time to meet new people and most high school couples do part ways once this time in their life comes around. They need their freedom to go and meet new people and that's probably what he has done. He probably doesn't want to tell you straight out for fear that he'll hurt your feelings. I think you just need to move on. You're in college too and it won't be difficult to find someone new. Good luck.
2006-07-26 19:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A similar thing happened to me with two different guys. It depends on the kind of relationship you are in. You will have to do a lot of gauging yourself. The first guy I dated, I went through a similar stage with you... it just kept getting worse and worse and I kept working harder to make him want me more like making him cards, letters, cakes, buying him presents etc. The second guy.. we would have similar fights but after long talks we would always reconcile and make a plan to change things for the better. I guess the main difference is that the other party shows that they are willing to work with you. If you are not feeling this and if he isn't making an effort to work with you the other way, I suggest you get out of the relationship before it gets worse for you. If you communicate with him that you think there is a problem and he seems to want to work with you on it, then it is worth keeping. You'll have to determine this yourself, but if it seems like you're doing all the work, its best to let go of it before it gets from bad to terrible. Like my new boyfriend says, most guys dont need to be "convinced" to want you. Their brains actually work quite simply.. if they want you they will pursue you and work hard to keep the relationship. Trying to think up ways to "convince" him is not as effective as thinking about whether the relationship is still viable or not and acting accordingly.
2006-07-26 19:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by exuberantfool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in College? Grow up and leave him alone! Its hard but you have got to let him do this on his own. Stay friends if you need too. But if he ever had feelings for you before I'm sure some will stay and if he ever wants you back you can bet he will try. Start going out with the girls..have fun and enjoy your free time...
2006-07-26 19:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro stop it that your making your self look bad for asking this. You are too good to want him to want you. Act like the break over was nothing and start dating again. Dont let the past get into the future. Girl it's over he couldn't handle it so dont bug
2006-07-26 19:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things always happens for a reason, and things ALWAYS at the end are better, so go on with your life, go out with your friends, meet new people, and if he's the one for you, things will put your life again with him and you will be the happiest, if he's not for you life will separate you from him, BUT for sure you'll find someone that is better for you... I also broke up with a boyfriend that I was with 5 years, I was broken hearted, but I decided to go ahead with my life, I traveled, met new people, etc., and now I'm happily married with the love of my life!.. so as I told you, things always happen for a reason... good luck and be strong! :D
2006-07-26 19:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever consider that maybe he doesn't love you? He is probably feeling smothered. Guy's need to hang with their friends especially in college, we want to party and come and go as we please and not have anyone telling us what to do or make us feel bad about going out with the guy's. If you truely love him tell him that you do and tell him that you are willing to give him all the space he needs. If he really loves you he'll respond.
2006-07-26 19:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by Barry M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go after him, there is nothing worse then when someone wants there space and you don't give it. I think you should look your best, in case he see's you, maybe find some guy friends to talk to when he see's you and just ignore him, if he truly loves you, he'll miss you and come back. Just don't bother him, what's the saying "If you let something go and it comes back then it was meant to be, if it doesn't then it wasn't". Good luck. (PS, jealousy always helps :)
2006-07-26 19:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by prettyinpink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make a person fall in love with you. Besides, college is the time for new things and experimenting. Get yourself a girlfriend, and see how that works out or you.
2006-07-26 18:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by paydaytim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that he is over you and is probably cheating on you. Get over him.. You have been dating him so long that you are scared to be single. Go with it because if he is looking elsewhere, so should you be. He may say he loves you but unless he shows you how valuable you are to him, don't believe a word of it.
2006-07-26 19:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Claudia B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋