i let women know befor we go on a date that i'm not gonna sit there and compliment them on everything about them.i believe women are probably thinking ok this guys just wanting in my pants so i wait until they see my sincerity and then i'll drown them in compliments.would you (women)see that as a bad thing?
2006-07-26 11:53:17 · 9 answers · asked by andy f 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i'd prefer to sit down and show a genuine interest in what she has to say then let her know that shes absolutly beautiful or whatever
2006-07-26 11:57:24 · update #1
and i am speaking of a first date
2006-07-26 11:58:00 · update #2
and i am also very polite and i do keep conversation going but i just dont believe in commenting on superficial aspects of a woman......i'd rather tell them that they have a beautiful soul then how good their appearance is.i realize theres alot of additions here but i don't want to sound like i'm rude about it with women.
2006-07-26 12:09:11 · update #3
actually i completely agree here! this guy kept complimenting me the whole first date. and it was nice..but made me uncomfortable. made me think he saw me only in that way...because his compliments were only about my physical appearance and he would then proceed to give me a sleazy grin..not very comforting to a girl.
what your doing is right. i say one or two compliments the first date is fine. but dont' go overboard. like you said later on you can pile on the compliments.
2006-07-26 13:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by reemsh_2003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are perhaps overestimating the importance of compliments to women. I doubt any woman wants to be complimented on *everything*
I certainly wouldn't want to be drowned in them, that gets boring very fast.
They definitely should not be overdone, but what's the harm in letting your date know that she's looking good?
One or two compliments shouldn't interfere with your sincere interest in what she has to say, either.
I would probably not date you if you were so upfront about this. I mean, if you're so stubborn about this, what other things might you balk at?
And any compliment should be sincere no matter to whom you are addressing it.
If you dislike to comment about superficial aspects, then don't date superficial women. However, every woman likes to know that she looks good. Would it kill you to say that? She says thank you, you both move on with the conversation. This is not rocket science.
Don't worry so much about this small stuff.
2006-07-26 12:11:51 · answer #2 · answered by boogiewunker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yeah, normal compliments as a show of interest in who a person is and wanting to get to know them is the norm... And too much would seem fake and desperate. Not a difficult concept to grasp. Just throw a couple genuine compliments in there and leave it at that.
2006-07-26 12:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by Indigo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm wondering that you aren't to any extent further mushy TAKING THE LEAD! if you're on a date, the first chance, snatch her hand. you'd be wanting to loosen up, and do not stressful up. Make the article of contact to affix the friendliness and affection that you easily experience for her. imagine of her as someone who likes the very undeniable actuality that you want to carry her hand, and that doing so will relieve HER anxiety. in case you experience you could achieve this without imperilling the date, be straightforward about your own anxiety, making particular that you enable her understand how a lot you want her. Humor is a good ingredient, and the anxiety itself ought to correctly be appeared at as a mutual source of humor. If she likes you too, that total uncomfortability might want to melt away.
2016-10-15 06:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right idea, but I probably would avoiding announcing that you refuse to compliment your date right off the bat. That would probably piss most women off. So, while you are heading in the right direction, a few compliments here and there can't hurt.
2006-07-26 12:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest when giving a compliment. However, you don't have to tell a woman that you are not going to compliment them. That's so unnecessary.
2006-07-26 12:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you go on many second dates? If some guy did that to me....I don't know that I could stand to "sit there" and listen to his crap for one evening.
You don't need to give a freeking speach - just a "well, you look wonderful tonight" with sincerity is enough.
2006-07-26 13:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by suzieq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't TELL her you're not going to compliment her. If you honestly think what she does/says/whatever is worth some praise, than do it; otherwise don't bring up the subject.
2006-07-26 12:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jonathan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to compliment once and awhile, is bad.
2006-07-26 11:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋