Just wondering if there are any good single men still out there...It seems as though most of the men today have lost touch with what a gentleman is...They let us women work our butts off, do all the social work, house upkeep, yard upkeep and they won't even open a freaken car door for us anymore. I wish I could find a hard working, kind hearted, thoughtful man. I think I am living in the wrong era and I'm not even old. "Where did all the good men go?"
2006-07-26 11:45:52 · 32 answers · asked by Knock Knock 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From my perspective, there seems to be a bit of disparity between your portrayal of things and what I've seen so far.
First, with the current trend (at least in the U.S.) of women going for it all - the family, the career, the nice house, the stylish car, the 2.8 kids and the dog - it tends to foster the "I can do it, no matter what" attitude. That's not a bad thing; a healthy dose of self-confidence is something more of us could stand to have, in my opinion. However, it's quite easy for that "can-do" attitude to be carried over into every aspect of a woman's life.
So what's a guy to do when confronted with a woman who can handle everything? For some women (and I'm not saying that you're one of them - heck, I don't even know you) it can be perceived as an insult when a man attempts to be "chivalrous"...almost as if we're saying "you can't do that, let me do it for you".
As a result, some men just opt to take the easy way out (hey, we're lazy s.o.b.'s - at least, some of us are) and just do nothing. Using Women's Lib as an excuse, they shirk all potential responsibility and just coast.
For myself, I firmly believe that chivalry is a noble idea and should be displayed whenever possible - as long as the lady is willing for such displays to be made on her behalf.
...if she doesn't like it, I'm pretty certain that I'll hear about it.
2006-07-26 11:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I agree for the most part with Fla: A lot of men aren't gentlemen simply because the ladies let them get away with being boors. Feminists thought they were pulling themselves up when they made themselves equal to men, when what they really did was take themselves off the pedestal.
OTOH, there are a lot of us who are more old-fashioned, but you ladies never notice us because the playas always catch your attention with their antics. The 'good men' are more reserved, so we don't look terribly exciting at first glance. There's a tradeoff that men & women both struggle with: Immediate vs. long-term happiness. Men usually view that as looks vs. personality; for women, it seems to be extroverts vs. gentlemen.
I guarantee you that I wouldn't make a big 1st impression, or possibly even get noticed by you if we were in a public place together (though I've had my moments!) That's the way gentlemen have always been, but in the 'game' these days, that's a big disadvantage.
2006-07-26 12:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are still many good men out there that will treat you with the respect that you should get. He will open the car door and be a true gentleman. He will respect what you want and not push your boundries. Sorry to say they are hard to find, but they are out there. Keep up the search and don't settle for anyone.
2006-07-26 11:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by flyguy03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....young lady, you've got to move out of Slimeballville real soon.
I as a young boy was taught by my parents to always be a gentleman with ladies. This type parenting just doesn't happen anymore. I guess everybody is just too busy these days. Too busy to teach their children from right or wrong, or the do's and don'ts.
Oh well..... I guess it's up to old folks, to hold those doors open for the ladies.
2006-07-26 11:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by KingCucamonga 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ain't woman's lib a "B"? Women fought so hard to get equal rights and some of the guys actually liked it, or got beaten down into submission. However, there are still rebels out there that enjoy being a gentlemen, but they also prefer their women to be ladies. Kind of a tough call, somewhere there is an in-between that works, but I promise, we still exist.
2006-07-26 11:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by fortuitousoppty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, when you least expect it you will meet Mr. Right. Yes, there are decent men out there. I Lost one due to a jerk on a snowmobile. The other I am currently with. They are swimming looking just like you. Time..be patient. The right guy for you will come along. Til then have fun.
2006-07-26 11:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
blame the feminist for that. The i can do it myself attitude is what keeps men from doing all these things. They figure if she wants to do it let her. But if you keep looking you can still find guys that still live in that era and know how to treat a woman with respect.
2006-07-26 11:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by fly on the wall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a good single English gentleman but I'm only 17
2006-07-26 11:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, there are good single men out there. But all women go for the Hot studs who are egomaniacs by nature, just like all guys go for the hotties who are high maintenance and shallow.
2006-07-26 11:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by NJboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first I'm not single but I just want to answer that question .
Yes still have some good men out there,They are the one who don't boost there ego.
The one you probably don't see because they just blend in the public.
Maybe at work ,at the bus stop,or train
Look around , look over the appearance ,
those men are there
2006-07-26 11:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by Pit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋