Is it wrong to cry?

Question

when you are in an arguement, and that person just won't stop yelling and calling you names so bad i can't even put here? is it wrong to cry when you feel worthless and like you just don't mean anything to the world but bad? My boyfriend and I could just be watching tv, and he'll blurt out some of the meanest things, so horrable, i don't even know how he thinks of them, and he gets mad at me for defending myself, saying it's my fault to cause a fight over it, then yells at me when i cry, calling me more names like crazy and retarded.he implies i'm a sleeze, when i've been with him for over three years, and only him. if someone on tv sleeps around, he'll say "thats you!" when it's not, but he clearly is not joking, he thinks this. i don't even leave the house. seriously. i only go to work. i dont even go anywhere with him.i have no friends, he didn't like them when we started to get serious. i have had boyfriends before him,not many. What should i do? i want him to stop calling me names

Answer 1

I know your question is, Is it wrong to cry, but I first need to say (like some of the others) you NEED to dump this guy. He most definitely should NOT be yelling at you (while watching tv? C'mon!), then to go and call you names...because he's the one who made YOU cry? "Retarded?!" OOOH, thats one of the worst, thats like saying your slow and incapable! Aww! and my favorite part, putting the blame on you over the inevitable argument?! (moment of silence...)

Ok, before I go any futher, please tell me that if you two are planning to stay together that you don't plan on reproducing little ones just like him... That's more little girls who would have to go through what you are. Doe's this world really need more negative contribution?

You sound like a nice, intelligent girl who knows better and believes in respect. So why are you still with him? I know you two probably say "I love you" to each other and mean it, but c'mon. You need someone who's going to treat you with the respect you deserve. Believe me, I was with a guy for 2 years. We loved each other and went our whole first 6mos argument FREE! Yes, argument free. For that whole time he never called me names or even "jokingly" said I was a "slu%." Once the arguments started coming around, believe me honey...I WAS CRYING! Cried a few too many times and poof! The name calling came around. You seem like the kind of girl who doesn't cuss, well me either. The one time I said any name calling to him was because he pushed my buttons too far. I called him a jerk and realized, that was it. He's not worth my patience.

My parents have been married and together for over 27 years. My dad never calls my mom names. I grew up learning that no one should take that kind of attitude from anyone, and as a girl in times like these, women definitely don't deserve to be disrespected. Step up Chica, let him go. You DON'T need to be with someone who has you questioning and let alone crying.
Good luck.

Answer 2

He obviously has no respect for you. It's not wrong to cry, but don't cry over this jerk. You would think after 3 years, there's love in there somewhere. You need to start making friends and go out and leave him at home until he misses you. You don't want to be a doormat for this guy, do you? The fact that you don't go anywhere, always stay home, have no friends, and just being his beck and call, of course it's not hard for him to not put you on a high pedestal. You need to have a social life outside of this jerk's world. Tell him you want him to stop now or you wanna break up. And don't see or speak to him for a few days. If he tries to call or come over, then maybe he cares a little. If not, then you'll know exactly where you stand.

You deserve better!

Answer 3

a guy like that doesn't deserve a girl like you, just ask yourself one question. Is he worthy of you, from the sound of it hes is not, infact pretty dang far from it. I know it's hard to let go. spec. after so long. but it is possible. You will never be happy, Do you think he makes you happy when he yells at you? then he doesn't make you happy. and he doesn't bring out the best you either from what you wrote, you need no you have to move on, :)

Answer 4

Get out while you still can. Run and don't look back. If he loved you he wouldn't be doing what he is doing. And maybe him saying that you sleep around when you don't is his way of telling he does. If he makes you cry he is definitely don't worth your tears. Don't waste anymore time with a selfish a** like him. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Its ok to cry when something or someone upsets you. But, if your boyfriend insults you out of the blue... just like that when watching tv, then I say: Dump him and get another boyfriend!!! Hes a piece a sh*t! You're worth more than that!

Answer 6

No there is not any longer something incorrect along with her crying. She incredibly needs to bypass to grief counselling although. She has some unresolved situation along with her dad. 5 to 6 years is a protracted time to be crying such as you discribed. attempt to speak her into counselling.

Answer 7

You should not cry my dear. No it is not wrong to cry. But it is wrong to stay with someone who doesn't respect you. If he loves you he should not talk to you like that. He should show love and respect to you.
Why call you all these names to make you feel like you can't be who you are. Why talk to you like that? You are human and you are someone whom he did fall in love with.

The question you should be asking yourself is...

How do I leave him? And To him... If you do't know how to respect me then I don't need you in my life....

I hope that helps you some. Good Luck to you sweetie...

Answer 8

Look at it this way, if your current bf makes you cry once a week and you break up with him and find someone who only makes you cry once every two weeks you'd be doing much better.

Answer 9

You need to leave, honey. You sound like a sweet intellegent gal and u can do so much better than this guy!! Goodluck

Answer 10

break up with him..and it is wrong to cry..dont cry over him. if he makes you cry why are u with him? and you need to get ur friends back..if my boyfriend said he dont like my friends..their are no us. i will pick my friends over him. get ur friends back! and break up with him.