iam 15 years old and iam pregnant and iam 100% percent sure iam gonna keep it!but my dad doesnt noe!1?

Question

what is the best way to tell him!
please some one help me......

Answer 1

Thankfully other people have mentioned this first, I usually get called names when I suggest adoption. Honey, when I was 15 I wasn't even allowed to car date yet. The best and most wonderful time of my life was between the ages of 15 to 21. I wouldn't have gotten to do 1/4 of the fun things I did if I was trying to care for a child. There are wonderful family's out there that have oodles of money, and more love in their hearts than you can even imagine. They need you and you need them to care for your child. As someone mentioned, open adoption is a wonderful thing all around. My old boss and her husband adopted a baby with an open adoption. The birth Mother is able to see the child quite frequently. The little girl is now 10 years old. She is well liked, has tons of friends, a very nice home, and the fine things in life. Her birth Mom has since graduated from school and college, and has a good job, and a serious boyfriend. More than likely none of those things would have happened for her if she would have tried to raise the child on her own. Please get the nerve, some how, some way and tell your father of your pregnancy. Yes, he'll be pissed off. But go to him with an intelligent plan in mind.

Please consider adoption.

Answer 2

If you are 100% sure you want to keep the baby then you have accepted the obstacles you will face as a parent. And there are obstacles at any age. I had my first at 18 and my second at 26 and thought it would be easier. There will always be roadblocks but be strong and honest and you will be on the right road.

I remember how hard it was for me and I was 18. But you know it is like pulling off a band aid...the anticipation is far worse than the action. Once you tell him you don't have to deal with what if's and you are being honest. Facing the truth is much easier than hiding behind lies and deceit. He will find out eventually the sooner the better you don't need that stress.

Answer 3

First you acted like an adult when you got pregnant now you need to act like one and tell your dad. If you are pregnant you have got to start getting prenatal care. You say you are keeping the baby but how do you plan on supporting it, what about school, is the dad in the picture. Be prepared as I am sure your father will want to know all this and more and remember he will be mad and upset and might yell but he is your father and he loves you and will only want what is best for you and baby so let him know then wait for the news to sink in and listen when he talks.

Answer 4

I'm 16 and have a 4 year old. I got pregnant when i was 12. Yeah i know its hard to tell your family. Luckly, I live with my sister and she wasn't as hard to tell as my mother would have been. When I told her we were eating dinner and i wasn't eating much she could tell something was wrong. So when she asked what was bothering me I told her that I was pregnant. She asked who the dad was, and how long I had known. She took it rather well. You'll be ok as long as you dont hide it. Too many girls do that and if you do your baby might become at risk. So whatever you do make the right choice for your baby.

Answer 5

First you need to make sure someone else is there so he doesnt beat the crap out of you. So tell someone else first, someone neutral like a teacher, other relative that doesn't live with you, etc. Then I would be sure I had a backup plan, somewhere to stay if/when he kicks you out. Then I would call someplace like Planned Parenthood or a clinic where you can start getting medical care. Lastly I would close my legs next time!

Answer 6

Just remember that a baby is not a cute little fuzzy puppy that you can get rid of later when it's not so cute and fun anymore. Do yourself a favor, (and ME...since I'll end up supporting it through my taxes). Please put the baby up for adoption. That is not being a bad person, that is being a very RESPONSIBLE loving person. There are 1000's of great folks out there that want a baby who can't have one. Do the right thing.

Answer 7

first off, tell your dad (unless you have a mom, in which case have her tell him with you in the room). what's the worst thing he could do? if he's a scary dad, tell your school counselor and have her bring him into a meeting with the three of you. if he's like my dad, he won't get mad in public, and, if you imply that you're physically afraid of him (and tell your counselor before she talks to your dad), he's less likely to hit you if he knows that somebody else will suspect that he might.

second, why, oh why would you want to keep the baby? so you can play mommy while your friends go to school, learn something and make something of themselves? do you really want to live in poverty for at least the next 18 years of your life? do you really want that innocent CHILD to live in poverty for the first 18 years of his life?

life is so difficult and sucks enough as it is, why choose to make it ten times harder on yourself AND some poor baby? please give that baby the opportunity to go to a home that will love him and give him the chance to make something incredible of himself. being a true mother is about loving your child more than yourself. if your life with that baby isn't going to be rewarding, enriching, and filled with happiness for you both, then are you really doing what's best for either of you? before you make any decisions on raising him or placing him with another family, think hard about what that baby's life will be like. please, please don't do anything selfish.

and adoption doesn't mean never seeing him again. i had a roommate who placed her son with a loving home and still got to see him regularly and watch him grow up. she went on to college and is confident to this day that her allowing him a bountiful and peaceful childhood was the most precious gift she could ever give him.

Answer 8

Please Talk this over with your mom and Dad you are too young to be a mother.Your parent will end up raseing your baby.Your going to cheet your self out of a time in your life that you will regret looseing.I was 18 when I had my son,17 when I got pregnant.I missed last yrs of high school my education suffered,I missed dateing and partys and prom and lost friendships and I have struggled for the past 16 yr.You can not fathum the road you are abought to travel you need your parents support and love.Have you considered open adoption?With open adoption you are still involved with your childs life but you are able to go ahead with you life. please visit www.family4urbaby.com and outher sights to realy understand open adoption.Good luck and God Bless you.

Answer 9

First off, tell friends and then people such as guidance counselor. Try to tell him in a situation with other adult who knows. That way, everyone acts civil. Hoepfully he will be accepting. Also, make sure the father knows, it is his kid and he can help a lot.

Answer 10

U R 15 u seriously need counseling n u mus tell ur dad so he can help u to decide its best tht u confess to him and really b sorry coz u jus ruined ur life