Parents.. How would you take this if your kid told you..?

Question

I am gay, and before i even come out to my parents, i want to know how you parents would take it if your kids told you they were gay? honest answers please, and please don't be rude to ME.. please just tell me what you would do if ur kid was gay.

thanks for the answers. they almost found out i was gay once because i was IMing someone, and they really really freaked out. is this just the initial shock, or? they told me "do you need to see a therapist" or "are you lonely and do i need to get off early" and "tell me you're not gay, tell me this is a dream" and "i'll stil love you, but just please don't be" and "what did i do wrong?" so i lied and said i wasn't because it was just too hard for me to deal with. i can't hide it forever.. i am going to be a father eventually, and i will make sure there is a mother, but i might not be married to her and she may be a lesbian. i just don't know why they took it to bad.. i guess they think that being gay is my "sex life" when really i don't even think about sex with guys.. so who knows. thanks for the answers.

Answer 1

I have a gay son and I knew before he told me, I love him as much now as I ever did and stand by him 100%.

Answer 2

I am a mother of 2 wonderful little girls. If either one of them ever tells me she's a lesbian, I will be shocked and will probably cry- not because of any disappointment I have in her, but because the world we live in is not accepting of what they do not understand. I will feel sorry for the things she will have to face in her life- whether people like to admit it or not, from employment to schooling homosexuals have a hard time getting accepted. I will always love my daughters though and they couldn't tell me anything that would change that. They're my whole life. Your parents might be upset that you are gay, but please bare in mind they're not upset AT you. This is nothing you can help. They're upset because they know what you have ahead of you. Assure them that you'll be alright and thank them for loving you unconditionally. This is something that can be worked through. Good luck.

Answer 3

Ya know my best friend & I had an awful debate about this that almost made us never speak again...She said that she hates "fags" and would never speak to her child again if they were gay. I got so pissed off at her for being so narrow minded that I hung up on her. I would honest to God love my child the same as I did before I knew. The choice is theirs to make entirely. Even though I'm Catholic & obviously that is not our religion, I have had friends that were gay & I could really care less. It's not my life & not my decision to make, & my child definetely will be loved no matter what. If your parents abandon you (so to speak) after you tell them, it's their loss. You are still the same child that they raised & they should be happy with whatever you do with you life (unless it is self-destructing [drugs, promiscuity,etc])

Good luck with everything I hope it works out

Answer 4

There is nothing that would stop me from loving my child. On the other hand, my husband would probably disown my son. All the wives I know say they would love their son no matter what. All the husbands I know said they would kick their son out of their house. It really depends on how your parents are. Especially strong christians and certain cultures would strongly disagree with gays. I think fathers are harder to tell too because they expect their son to be hard and tough and not sensitive and soft. Good luck!

Answer 5

first I would tell my child that I love them no matter what. my kids know they can talk to me about anything. honestly, since I am a christian and believe that it is immoral, I would be heartbroken. my children know my beliefs and it would probably make it harder for them to tell me, but I hope that they would.

i would encourage them as well as you to do some real soul searching and perhaps seek some counseling to see if this is the true lifestyle of your choice.

I have a friend that was in this lifestyle for 13 years and now after seeking counseling, because of the daily challenges, is trying to turn away from this.

I hope that maybe you will seek out some answers through more than just this site.

Answer 6

there is nothing i could do i would still love you as my child,it is a very hard thing to do to come out and face alot of prejudice, this you will have to face inevitably throughout your life from small minded people and some will even shy away from continuing being a friend but the true ones will stay, but i wish you luck and i am sure your parents and friends already have an idea that you are gay anyway xx.

Answer 7

If either one of my son's were gay, they are ages 5 and 7 now, i would support them and love them as much as I ever have. I would hope for them to get in a meaningful relationship. Although in this day and age, people rather their children not grow up and be gay, I would be extra supportive. I would definately respect who they are. My hopes are to always maintain good relations with my children. I don't even think I would have any feelings of disappointment when they decided to tell me. I love them and just want them to be happy and BE WHO THEY ARE, without feeling ashamed or that they need to hide it.

Answer 8

I would tell him that I loved him and that I am interested in every part of his life. I would also tell him that I believe that it is his cross to bear and the choice he makes is his choice. I will also help him in reading the Bible and make sure he knows EXACTLY what God said about homosexuality and not be going by what others are saying or misquoting the Bible. I believe that a homosexual has to treat their sin just like addicts of drugs, sex, alcohol, porn, abuse,over eaters,liars,any kind of sin and make a commitment to NOT act on it. I Corinthians 7:2 says that to avoid fornication(homosexuality), let every man have his own wife, and every woman to have her own husband. That is very plainly stated and is God's word that I would want my son to live by. Not just for gays but for every sin they may be involved in. You need to Ask God to give you strength to not act on this feeling. It may not be what you think since you said you don't have sexual feelings toward boys. Best wishes and I pray that you will not act on this as so many do .

Answer 9

Gosh, you would just think that parents would know their kids well enough to at least have an idea that they are gay or whatever. You already know that it is going to be awkward and they might yell a lot or cry, but they are your parents and ultimately they'll most like decide to do right by you.


*hugs*

Answer 10

FIrst of all, i am not a parent, just a fellow peer. Just try and secure urself and make sure that u are gay 100%. When u have figured out that answer, practice telling ur parents(use a wall to talk to) and when ur rdy tell them.