Anyone have a baby when they have older kids already?

Question

My kids are almost 10 & 8 - my husband wants another baby - I think our kids will be too much older and it'll be like starting over - he acts very disappointed when I tell him that I think it's not a good idea. But, I am still young (early 30's) enough to do it. We thought we were done, but I think he misses having a little one - and I do, too - but I just started working full-time because my kids are a little bit older. I am kind of enjoying the little bit of extra freedom I have now that they are a little bit more self-sufficient (as far as getting snacks and taking baths, etc.) So, I don't know . . . any advice?

Answer 1

Just think, your 10& 8 have eachother. If your body says you want another baby, I say go for it.

It's nice to have the freedom, and it will be like starting all over again, but don't you just miss those days of the little toddler feet pitter pattering around? It's the greatest to be parents!

Enjoy yourself for a while, and see how you feel. I say have one now while your still young enough, and don't wait and regret it in 10+ years.

Good luck, mama

Answer 2

Tough decision to make, especially when you're enjoying getting back to work. But I'd say that if you REALLY want it, then go for it. Now before doing it (please pardon the pun) make sure that it is not just a whim or something that you and your hubbie are momentarily fancying.

When my son was born, my daughter was already 6, so at that time, I was somewhat in the same position you are in right now. I do not regret it. Had I had them both at about the same time, I'd have to grown kids by now. But with the 6 year difference among them, I am still enjoying a little kid around the house (well, not that small at all; he's almost 7 right now).

I am now months away from my 40th birthday and sometimes I kind of like the idea of being a father once again. I'd really like to smell and tickle tiny little feet and see and hear a toothless giggle. But I undestand that it is not my time for that anymore. You and your husband should ponder whether it is still your time to be parents once again.

:)

Answer 3

Well...I don't know from personal experience, but I am one of the older children in the family. I'm 16 years old right now and I have a two year old sister. I also have two older sisters that are 20 and 21. It's really up to you. On the bright side, you have two children who (in a few years) are potential babysitters for your child when you need to do simple things like going to the grocery store and don't want to take your baby. If you really enjoy the freedom, then don't have another baby. But really, I think if you and your husband really miss having a little one that much, you should go for it. Even though she's not mine, I love my baby sister. I don't know where I'd be without her today!

Answer 4

My sister was in the same situation, and same age. But her oldes was 15 at the time. SHe had her by someone else. Her husband wanted his "own" kid.. Begged and begged and my sister erally didn't want to but she did anyhow.

Who do you think is taking care of that child? Not him! And it ticks her off.. She has to beg him to take care of his "own" kid so she can get out. He is 3 now, the oldest is now almost 19.

My sister also had a career, a very promising one, she went to college while on welfare for 2 years then it tok her almost 2 years to land a job. And she had worked her way up. NOW? She is cleaning houses for extra money because she had to quit working to care for their baby.. And it's not a feild to easily get back into after not doing it for a couple of years.

My advice? If you REALLY want another child for YOU not because of your husband, then go for it.. If you have any doubts, don't do it..It is that simple.

Answer 5

I can't say much because I'm only in my teen years but anyways, the age difference between me and my younger brother is 8 years. I have a couple of friends who have either a younger brother or sister who are either 12, 13, 14 years younger. I think it would be easier because I can depend on your older children to help you out but it'll be tough for them as well getting used to it. And the bond between your older children may not be as strong as should be seeing the gap of age, but that's just a possibility. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I accidentally got pregnant with my daughter when my others were 18, 16 and 12...ooops! Now that she is in my life I wouldn't want it any other way. Yeah! It is kinda like having two families but the older kids were so helpful that it was much, MUCH easier the 2nd time around! GOOD LUCK and let us know how things work out for ya!

Answer 7

I have 4. 13,11,7, & 3. The older ones enjoy the little one and they are such a big help! They are old enough to feed the baby, hold the baby and get things when you need it. Its actually not as hard when you have the older ones around. I would consider it! You are older and a little wiser Im sure!!!

Answer 8

Well, lots of people have children with 10 years in between. It's really difficult to say. You need to talk to your husband about that. But decide soon, because you don't want to be like 40 and have a newborn, well it would be easier to have it at a younger age.

Answer 9

My boyfriend is the oldest son at 27 and six children later, his mother had her youngest daughter who is 7. The mother just turned 50. I think that is too much of a gap, but I don't think your situation is too much. You can only have children for so long, you don't want to regret not having another one. Go for it!

Answer 10

yeah my oldest was 12 when my baby was born. Its been great having 12 years between the oldest and youngest. If you are young and willing, why not. But it has to be up to you and your husband. Only you two can decide that. Good luck!