Desperate for advice. Having a really tough time.?

Question

I just found out that I am moving away in a year or so, if not less and I'm having trouble dealing with this because I am settled where I am at. The city I'm moving to is about 10 hours drive away from where I am right now. It's hard to leave my friends, most especially the guy I really love. I've really liked him for more than three years now and with that said, I know 365 days isn't long enough to be able to spend time with him and saying goodbye then won't be easy. I know I have to move but I really want to stay here so I can be with him, but I haven't got any choice. I know I'll miss him a lot. I've told him I like him once before but never again. I don't think I said what I really felt towards him nor did he really understand what I meant. We've talked about this casually but now I want to discuss it more seriously. This is really hard for me because I only have a year left to be with him and I can't do anything because we're just friends right now.

Please help me. I really want to tell him how I feel but I don't have the courage to and I don't know how to do it. I don't want to be coming on too strong because we are still at a young age (teens). I don't want to have regrets when I leave, wandering what could have been.

I know I've asked this before but barely anyone replied and I admit I'm that desperate for an advice and moral support.

Answer 1

Honey everything happens for a reason. Oddly enough I know what you are going through as my daughter had the same thing happen to her. Her 'boyfreind" moved from Illinois to Florida and they pretty much haven't spoken to each other in a long time.

Here is what I advise and I know your going to say wrong answer. If you and him really are only freinds, then moving is not going to change that. Enjoy being with all your friends for the next 365 or so days. You may never see any of them ever again.

On the other side of this, just think of all the new people you will meet and the new "person you like" maybe in that crowd.

Answer 2

When I was in high school, I loved my best friend. We went to prom together even, but I never told him how I felt. Now, I'm almost 30 and it doesn't bother me anymore. I've had plenty of boyfriends and opportunities to tell people how I feel.

BUT, for a long time (years) all through college I regretted not telling him how I felt and had a nagging "what-if" feeling. The problem is that you would have to emotionally prepare yourself if he didn't feel the same way (or did, but was too embarrassed to admit to it). If you don't think you can do that, you could always just wait until shortly before you move & tell him then. That way if its awkward, you'll be moving soon & you won't have to worry about it.

I know its hard to imagine, but at some point you'll meet someone that will make you forget (or just remember with a fond memory & not sadness) this guy.

Over all - I empathize with you & understand how hard this is. But I believe in fate a bit & I think fate has a funny way of eventually making you run into whoever you're supposed to run into.

Answer 3

This will sound like typical advice, but you are young and at an awkward age. Your feelings may be true or they could just as easily be an infatuation. It sounds like your move is definite and that if your friend did share your feelings, you would at best be left with a long distance relationship. From experience, that is a very hard way to spend what should be a very carefree and happy time in your life. If you have casually discussed your feelings and he has not exhibited a romantic interest, it probably is not there. You should try to accept that and enjoy your friendship. Let whatever happens come naturally and do not try to force it.

Answer 4

You need to tell him how you feel no matter if your friends only. He needs to know what you are going through and letting him know this will most likely change things between you. You never know he may be feeling the smae way, communication is key. If you want more out of your friendship then let him know and if he rejects you then maybe he is scared that once you leave there will be nothing left. The best thing to do is be hinest with him and up front don't hide how you feel or it will make the time you do spend together more painful for you. Good luck!

Answer 5

For heavens sakes.......Stop being so serious. A year is a long time so enjoy the time you have with your friends and environment. Seems like you are just friends....so be mature and accept that. Moving away should take the pressure off for now. You are just a teenager.....many people both male and female will pass through your life. Look at all the positives and whose to say that he has the same feelings for you. You said the key words "we are just friends right now".....so keep it that way. You have the power to choose what you want to do......why make a choice that will lead you to agony???? Be Smart and practice for the future!

Answer 6

poor you.the only good thing about your problem is that you are young.that being said.you aren't looking for an answer your looking for an excuse.if this guy has feelings for you,he would already have made them clear.i suggest not telling him your real feelings,cause that would only complicate things for him.part as friends,that way you can still have a relationship with him.at least you can still phone him or maybe see him on holidays.and in the future when you are old enough to move out on your own,you can pursue a real adult relationship.and who knows maybe when you get to the new place,you will meet someone you will like a lot more than this other guy,(whose feelings you are not sure of).and what if this new guy turned out to be the man of your dreams.good luck with the move, good luck with your problem,and good luck with your life.hope this helps.

Answer 7

Young Love is great! If you 2 are friends tell him how you really feel. God works in mysterious ways and 365 is a long time. Anything can happen. Tell him or you will go totally crazy wandering and it may ruin any relationship you try to have in the future because you will not get him out of your head.
Go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
good luck
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P.S.
I am a MOM in my 30's.
been there done that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Why are you so afraid to talk to him? I mean, if you like him as much as you say, then there's no reason for you to be so shy around him. Just go have dinner with him one night and tell him how you feel. If you can't do that one little thing, then you'll spend a lot of time wishing you had. Don't be afraid to talk to him... he's not going to bite you or anything. Show some respect for yourself, or just drop it and never worry about it again!!!

Answer 9

Thank God we have the internet. You can still keep in touch with yahoo messenger no matter what, which is a good thing.

Take your time when you tell your b/f that your moving. Be sure that he understands why and all, and he will appreciate your honesty and respect that very much. Who wouldn't.

Answer 10

Try saying something like "When I leave here, I think what I am going to miss the most is you. I really care for you." Just remember, if you let your relationship go deeper, it will hurt you both when you move.