I've been seeing this guy for 10 months. Everything is as if we are in a committed relationship, But for whatever reason he don't want a relationship. Well last night I got tired of this no relationship. So I told him I didn't just want a friend anymore and that it was starting to stress me and I was just done. So he called me later to say he does want to be with me and he is in love with me. So we talked and now we are together. But I seems like he only want it now because I was leaving. What should I do? I don't want to pressure him into something he don't want.
2006-07-26 10:55:58 · 31 answers · asked by Blondie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you give him a chance to speak when you broke it off? Maybe you misread him.
OR he is saying he loves you so you stick around.
I guess only time will tell. There are only two things you know for sure- your gut instinct and what he says. Do you believe him?
2006-07-26 11:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by cocoanutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can sometimes be scared off by any committed relationship. Perhaps because of past experiences or fear of failing and or being rejected. In essence some people like to keep their options open for other things. In as much; I'm glad you made up your mind and didn't compromise into something that was less fitting to your desires or needs. You have now found out how much he cares for you. Don't take that for granted. Teach him to trust, have faith, and respect with love for you. He'll in turn will make you happy; if he's a good man, which he already sounds like. Good luck!
2006-07-26 18:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing because he was probably just scared to make the next move in yalls relationship. So Bravo. And just see where it goes and if he feels like he was pressured into committing hisself to you, you will eventually be able to tell that that is the way he feels. So just live in the moment and don't worry so much it will all work out, it always does.
2006-07-26 18:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by todayillsee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You telling him that you didn't want the no relationship probably made him realize that he loves you and doesn't want you to leave. So yes, you saying you were leaving made him want the relationship because he wants YOU. It's a good thing. If he doesn't want to be with you, you will start to notice it. But if he's in love with you, why wouldn't he want to? Just talk to him about it, it's important to be comfortable enough with your boyfriend to talk about this kind of stuff. Good luck.
2006-07-26 18:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by babyrooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you stood your ground and he stopped pussyfooting around and stepped up. Only time will tell if he means what he says. He obviously doesn't want to lose you, but the question is now, is he keeping you around just incase or is he really serious about stepping that up. You'll have to ask him, but before you do, give him a chance to show you he's serious. See how things go and if he's truly demonstrating what you've hoped he would, then don't stress, but if nothing changes, then it's time to ask him what's up. Good luck.
2006-07-26 17:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to pressure him into something he doesn't want, why are pressuring him? You want a relationship with him because he didn't. He didn't want one with you until you broke up with him. See what's going on here?
Don't worry about defining the relationship. Just enjoy it. If he's into you, then he won't date around. If he still dates around, then he's not that into you.
Now you just have to decide if you want to be into someone who isn't into you.
2006-07-26 18:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by El Guapo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE THE GUY NEEDS TIME OR MAYBE HE never hada relationship as long or sirious like what he has with you maybe his scared that it wont end well so just give the guy a chance dont presure him into anything thrust me you dont want to do that if you really love him but if you feel that he is being a little to inmature go ahead girl
2006-07-26 18:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mely_Vet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so too. I think he does like you but i dont think he loves you. He just said it cuz he felt like you were pushing him. Also, you should be careful about that becuz he might cheat on you becuz hes not ready for a relationship but rushed into one any way cuz he was afraid to lose you. Maybe you should talk to him and ask him what he really wants. If it was obvious he didnt want a relationship you shouldnt have rushed it, you shouldve left him. He was playing you.
2006-07-26 17:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys need this pressure to realise that they are not the only ones in a relationship. Sucks, but true.
So enjoy the relationship!
2006-07-26 17:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to talk to him about. Be a listener and open your heart to him. You're not only his girlfriend. You're his friend to him that he can talk to and trust. Tell him was been bugging him inside. Tell him that you can be there for him. If he tells you what is wrong, try to find a solution to it. If he doesn't, maybe he needs to talk to a homie of his that he can relate to. To be honest, sometimes the guy or the gal has to talk to somebody else other than his or her mate. It's normal and you have to understand it. As much as you want to be there for him, he will seek for advice from someone else. Nonetheless, try to talk to him. Let him know that you want to help, listen to him, and try to have a solution. I hope you guys work it out. I wish you my very best. Good Luck!
2006-07-26 18:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋