should i give up on love?

Question

should i give up on loving her?
iv ben relly upset the past week cuzz i rely like this girl all of her freinds keept thelling me how musch she likes me and i should ask her out and stuf and if i had just asked her she would of said yes but i had to be scared to and wait till after drama started and she said if us being togather is gona cause **** like this then it wasent worth it then she said she loved me and i was to scared to say it back even tho i felt it


so she dosent even so much as glance at me for like an hour and she starts flriting with this guy and it was killing me inside and the we talk foe like 10 min and we dont talk for the rest of the night ......................


i prommised myslef to never ever lie to her and she asked y i decided to talk to her?
and i told her the truth
because
she was hott
and now she like hates me
will or should she forgive me?

Answer 1

Let me explain a couple things to you because you're young and you don't have the life experience yet to understand it.

1. It's perfectly normal for you to be afraid to ask a girl out. Everyone has been there before, so you're not seeing anything new under the sun.

2. It sounds like she is still young yet as well. She hasn't had enough experience in life yet to truly understand just what love is, ( just like you I imagine) so don't lose any sleep over what she did and said.

Instead, learn from what happened. Try to understand what she was thinking.

For example, why do you think she was concerned by your late offer to having a relationship? I have no doubt that she already knew that you liked her,(probably just as much as she liked you) and that it was only a matter of time before you asked the question, so she probably figured that you would be indecisive in other areas as well. So she decided to test you.

Don't believe me? Why do you think she started talking to another boy? She's not dumb enough to think you wouldn't be jealous. That was the entire point of doing it. She wanted to see how you would handle it. It was a test of your backbone you could say.

Lastly, when she got mad after you told her how you felt. You busted her bubble man. Lot's of younger girls at around your age have fantasies that have been forming in their heads for years when it comes to relationships. I have no doubt she was expecting something meaningful to come out of your mouth, but lots of girls hate it (and rightfully so) when the only reason a guy likes her is because of her looks.

Personally, if I were you, I'd move on to the next girl. You probably ruined your chances of her actaully liking you like that again, and if you stick around hoping she'll come back, she won't. Girls just don't work that way.

They want a man's man, and that's something you're not being right now. Don't kick yourself for it, learn from it. Find a guy at your school who is good with the ladies, and do your best to be friends with him. Pick up on the tools of the trade, (meaning learn his techniques when it comes to getting a girl's attention) and try it out.

The best lessons are learned through failure kid, so the best course of action is to not do what it is that hasn't been working so far and change it until you get better results. Being the wimpy, never stand up for yourself, let her walk all over you, nice guy didn't work for you did it? So maybe you should change your attitude a little.

Experiment. Learn. Repeat.

Answer 2

She's a flake. Move on to someone less flakey. The second she hears your with someone else, she'll start liking you again. When she starts liking you again, don't be dramatic. If you're dramatic, then noone knows which of you is the woman. In that case, she'll choose a man over you. After a few weeks of dating her, you'll get tired of dating a flake and dump her.

Answer 3

ok. don't be afraid to be honest. tell her the truth; that yes, u thought she was hot and that's why u were originally attracted to her, but now u've grown to love her, and u want her back. that's it, don't be afraid to tell her how u feel. u will always regret it, and also, if u are afraid....why would she want someone who is afraid to tell her things? don't u think she wants someone who can make good decisions and fight for what he wants?? BE that guy for her, and maybe she will see that u have the confidence and the will to get her back. she prob thinks u didn't like her enough, it was only cuz she was hot, cuz u didn't say u loved her back. even if she rejects u, even if u feel ashamed or weak, tell her the truth---> that way, no matter what happens u told her everything and it's her decision, not urs, that made it/ruined it.

Answer 4

I don't blame her, but if it's the truth, and the whole truth, then you don't really love her. Better to be honest so she'll know. But if you really have deeper feelings for her, you'd better tell her. She needs to know you RESPECT her as a person.

I wouldn't promise she will talk to you again, but you can try anyway.

Even these days it's the guy's responsibility to lead the way.

Answer 5

I think you are a sweet person..and if she can't except that..then you should prolly move on. Don't dwell on one person..I think that you are prolly young..and there are so many people out there to experience...Life is full of ups and downs..and once you hit down..its fun to get back up and try again. Yeah..it hurts..but you get over it..and you find someone new. Move on.

Answer 6

Brother I am having problems reading what you write, thherefore I cannot answer your question fully. But do not give up on love.

Answer 7

What? for one thing she cant love you if she doesn't know you. Sounds like too much drama, date someone with less drama in her life.

Answer 8

give her roses but never chocolate because chocolate is fattening. no girl likes fattening.write a sweet letter and put it in her locker or her bag and write from your secret admirereven though its not a secret.

Answer 9

no don't give up on her. go up to and start talking to her. if you give up then she won't be interested in you. show her what she's missing. if you have to start flirting with other girls and she how she reacts to that. it might make her jealous. good luck.

Answer 10

Blah blah blah.......you are immature, sound ignorant, can't write English and should not consider dating until you can fix those problems!!! Geeesh!