ok there is this guy i have been on and off with for ages now.. he is sooo damn hot! trouble is i think he is afraid to have a relationship.( and i want a mature relationship) the thing is he has hurt me in the past and i have tried sooo hard to get over him but i really cant help myself.. yesterday in work he pulled me aside and i couldnt resist him.. but i still feel he is gonna mess me around again.. what do i do????
2006-07-26 10:44:11 · 10 answers · asked by cinderella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if u don't trust him...let him go. hotness only goes so far. if he hurts u, and has capability to hurt u, u have to find someone else who will treat u right, and who is what u want. keep ur boundaries.. what do u want??? a mature relationship? someone who doesn't hurt u on purpose? someone who will help u grow and mature, together? then don't take anything less than that, and don't let someone who doesn't have the same goals as u (ie u said he is afraid) to pull u down. be friends w/ him but work on ur real future relationships.
2006-07-26 10:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems you already answered your own question. Not to go on but this is why guys ask the same old question: "Why do girls like the bad guys and ignore the good ones": Simple answer is here. They are a challenge, "their so dam hot" (quote from you) and you cant resist. You seem to know what you should do but you also seem to want to do what you shouldn't. Of course it's decision.....pls just dont complain to anyone when he hurts you again b/c you know he will most likely being that he does not want a mature relationship. Good luck to you !
2006-07-26 17:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Chef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seriously need to get distance from this guy. move on. i've had the same problem. if he can't offer you want you want by now, then he probably never will. Problem: you work with this guy? seeing someone you're working with is never a good idea... you're probably going to have to talk it out with him & let him know that you need more and you have to move on from this relationship and end any physical aspects that are going on.
2006-07-26 17:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like his getting hurt in the past is just an excuse to stay single. Don't waist too much time on this guy: you won't change him.
2006-07-26 17:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, this is when you need to be strong and remember the pain from the last experience. be true to yourself, see the whole situation from a third-person-point of view. you'll see your answer bright as day.
2006-07-26 18:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it Sweetheart, from what you say above your a pretty distraction / convienience ...
Find a grown up to have the grown up relationship you desire.
2006-07-26 17:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax, take a deep breath! OK
I dont know if i would trust him anymore if he hurt me before.
He might be using u
2006-07-26 17:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Hockey_Freak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just using you as a "side bang"
2006-07-26 18:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sunny R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is in your question.
2006-07-26 17:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fu#k him. literally dun da dun dun dunnnnnn
2006-07-26 17:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋