Should I be worried?

Question

My mom is 42, when we went into the gas station she got some sex inhansment pills. I know that sexual interaction is unsafe it you are over 35. Later that evening I saw that the case was empty and laying on her bedroom floor. She has been extra happy since then and so has my dad.

Should I be worried that my mother is having sex?

Also, I want to talk to my mother about this. How can I get a conversation started??? I also don't want another sibling other than my big sister. How can i tell my mother this since I know that she had sex???

Please don't be rude about this. I am worried because sex after 35 is unsafe. My mother also tends to get drunk and can be a wild person. I am just concerned that she is doing some wrong things that can even get her AiDS or something.

Answer 1

WHAT???? sexual "interaction" is safe for adults of ANY age.

maybe you're thinking of increased risk of birth defects for older women who get pregnant.... but even that is nothing to worry about.

as far as your mother having sex.... OF COURSE she's having sex! and she's almost certainly on birth control and has no plans to have any more kids.

so.... (how can i say this kindly???) ... mind your own business and don't worry about your mom's sex life.

Answer 2

Sweetie, if sex ended at 35, there would be a lot more suicides in the world. It is normal and healthy for your parents to be having sex, hopefully they will continue long after you have a husband of your own. It helps them to bond their relationship and be calmer with you and your sister. I know it seems gross to you, but trust me, some day you will be glad that sex lasts your whole life.

PREGNANCY over 35 is more difficult, but in this day and age not so much dangerous as it is hard to accomplish. That is probably where you heard that number. If your mom is 42 she is unlikely to get pregnant accidentally, because she is so close to menopause. If they decide to have another baby, you may be upset at the begining but you will learn to love him or her. The doctors would keep an extra close eye on your mom, but other than that it would probably be a normal pregnancy.

If you are worried about these things, talking to your mom is a great idea. I will tell you a great secret. Almost any parent loves to hear the phrases "I want to talk about something embarrassing", "I'm scared, can you help me?" or really anything ending with "can you help me?" Start a conversation with the attitude that she can give you helpful advice, and it will almost never go wrong.

God Bless and Stay Healthy!!

Answer 3

It is fine for your mother to have sex. If she is on the birth control pill that is even greater!!! But it's fine. I don't know where on earth you got the idea that sexual action was unsafe for people over 35. That's bullcrap! You shouldnt be worried about your mother having sex.

Chances are, all those pills did was make your parents a little drunk / happy. Nothing too wild. It's not like those pills are going to make your mother do anything extremely disturbing.

Your mother is a grown woman. You shouldnt need to start a convo or anything cuz this is not a thing that you need to know. You will probably have sex when you are 42 also.

THiS iS NOTHiNG TO WORRY ABOUT!

Answer 4

You should really be minding your own business. It's great for "older people" to have a sex life! Your mother is probably just being herself, no need to be worried.

If you are really that worried after reading all these answers than here are some convo starters:

What were those pills for that you bought at the gas station?

You don't need to tell your mother that you don't want any more siblings, it is her own choice if she wants more children. Not her daughters.

You really shouldn't be that curious about your mother's sex life. Sexual interation is only dangerous if your over like 50. Your mother is goign to be fine!

Also, about her being happy. If she's usually mad happy should be a good thing. Maybe sex makes her joyful, which is great.

Oh, and you shouldn't be worried about what they're doing during sex either so please don't ask a question like that. If you are really that worried than confront your mother, just tell her that you are uncomfortable with her and your dad having sex, she will just tell you that it's fine and she'll give you a sex talk and let into you, but it's fine to have sex at your mother's age.

Answer 5

You shouldn't be worried about your mom taking sexual enhancement pills from the gas station. Chances are they are just caffinee pills with a few herbs in them. When you say it's unsafe for women over 35, I assume you heard a commercial about birth control. It's true that women over 35 have greater risks when taking birth control but the active ingredient in birth control are carefully regualted by the government and aren't available without a prescription. Taking a one time gas station supplement pill shouldn't do any harm. I wouldn't worry about your mom having sex. Like other people have said it's very normal for people to have sex well into their 60's and beyond. As for having another sibling, that choice isn't up to you. Your parents are the ones who get to decided if they are having any more children. It's true that women over 35 have an increased risk for birth defects but that's why all women go through prenatal screening and other test at the doctors office. All in all it will most likely make both you and your mom very uncomfortable if you bring it up. I would just let it be. Your mom and dad were probably just looking to add a spark to their relationship and you found out about it by accident.

Answer 6

I don't know where you got the idea that sexual interaction is unsafe for people over 35 but you are completely misinformed! Unless there is another medical reason and your doctor has advised you not to, you can have sex til the day you die, quite safely and enjoyably!

Admittedly the thought of parents doing the nasty is a bit disconcerting but just don't think about it. They obviously fancy the pants off one another and in some ways you should be happy for them sweetie!

I think perhaps you should discuss sex with her but not necessarily her sex life alhtough you can use her recent purchase as a good conversation starter, but more to help educate yourself from someone that will have your best interests at heart!

Answer 7

Sex is not unsafe after you are 35!!! People still have sex in their 60's! What are you, 9 years old? You do not get to decide whether or not you can have another sibling. Do not be a brat.

Oh yeah, why are you worried about your mom catching AIDS from your dad? She would already have AIDS from having sex with him since she apparently already has two children.

Answer 8

I am smiling here for I am a Mom. and about that age as well.
I dont kow how your mom would react but from my perspective and each person is differant so I dont want to make ya think this is how your mom would react.
No, you should not be worried your mom is having sex with your Dad.
I have no idea where you heard that sex after 35 is bad but I would like to know. for I have never heard that.
Intimacy, how I like to call it, is perfectly normal after 35, 45, 55. just because we are parents doesn't mean we dont have feelings still . :)
I guess I dont understrand I mean how do you think you got here? :) Why are you worried that your mom and dad are having sex? I know that yes, when I was young I was shocked too its' hard to imagine our parents have sex? oh my land. smiling with you. It is perfectly normal. I hope I had reassured you that your mom and dad are doing what is normal in life.
Sometimes women if their goign thru their menopausse years or maybe depression any number of things and they wish to be with their spouses they may have proboems too but in a differant sense the man does. If your mom is having sex with just your Dad I wouldnt' be worried.

Answer 9

Where did you hear that sex over 35 is unsafe? And if she wants to get pregnant, it's not your issue. I'm 42 and have a very active sex life; worry about it when she's 92.....until then, mind your own business!

Answer 10

oh dear you have a real situation on your hands.
Firstly its perfectly healthy for your parents to be having sex - all though no-one likes to think of their parents that way. Just think at least they are happy with each other - and try not to think about why they're so happy.
You can raise the subject by saying something like, you read it in an magazine that its unhealthy for people over 35 to be active in the bedroom, ask her opinion or ask her why shes taking tablets. Or just be completely honest with her, she might thank you for it.
Its great that you care about your mum so much your asking for advice - i bet more mums would like a daughter like you even if it is an embarrasing subject.
Good luck honey x x

Why are a lot of you being rude to her? Shes only asking our opinion!!! Give her a break will ya!!

Answer 11

No you should not be worried. It is not unsafe to have sex over the age of 35. I don't know where you got that from but whoever told you that they lied to you. She is a grown women so let her be. Don't even think about talking to her about that it either it is her privacy.