How do you deal with getting dumped?

Question

i wanna hear how you guys dealed with getting dumped. i got dumped yesterday and i just cried the night and im ok now. how did you guys deal?

Answer 1

It depends...

Breakups are all different. Some you almost celebrate...others bring you down for weeks.

I dealt with it by looking forward instead of back. Regardless of why, all my breakups had one glaring thing in common: the relationship was not right.

It didn't matter whose fault it was, or who did what to who, or who said what to who. What mattered was that we tried, it didn't work, and we were no longer together. Who cares 'who broke up with who'? I learned not to worry about it, because I only wanted to be with someone I was crazy about, who was obviously crazy about me too. If that was not the case, I knew I'd be happier with someone else.

The cool part that really helped me heal during the bad times was reflecting back on what I'd learned from each relationship, and more importantly, each person I'd been with in each relationship. I learned about myself (some things I liked, and some things I really needed to work on), and also about how to better 'read' others. I know it's been said how no man can truly understand women, and that's partially true, but I really do think you can learn plenty about the opposite sex by dating many of them.

I am thankful that I dated as much as I did before I got married, and I have no regrets about it. I learned to listen and communicate clearly, I learned that no one is a mind reader, I learned 'hints' only serve to confuse people, and clearly speaking your mind in a cordial and honest fashion is a great alternative to arguments and fights.

I am thankful for every breakup I had. They all contributed to making me stronger, wiser, and an overall better person, husband, and father.

Don't stress over breakups or getting dumped. You wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't want you anyway, and now you're a bit wiser than you were before. You'll be better able to really see what's important in a relationship (it's much more than your partner being 'really hot looking') and you'll learn to choose the right partner for you. When you finally choose the right person, you'll have your ex's to thank for helping you learn what was best for you.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I have yet to experience that, I guess I have been the heart breaker in the past.
My last relationship I had with a guy I met him on a month tour, and we hit things off really, well, he's from another country and we decided at the beginning that we didn't want to do the long distance relationship thing, but 3 weeks after of bliss, I know my opinion on the whole thing changed cause I fell for him. I haven't cried yet, just keep looking back on the pictures and video I have of us together....I cried when I said goodbye to him, so if it happened that he broke up with me I probably would have cried for days!

Answer 4

The one time I got dumped and it bothered me I sat back and waited because I knew he was going to want to come back. He did call and want to come back home so I met him for lunch and gave him the house key and later that evening when he came to the apartment and opened the door, he was in a completely empty apartment. I had moved out the day before. You think he got the message?

Answer 5

the story with me. is that i didnt get dumped. i dumped him... but i only dumped him because i heard he wanted me to.. and didnt want to be the 'mean' one who does it. so basically i did. and it was a couple weeks ago but it still hurts like hell when i think about him. i've never cared about someone more than i cared and still care about him. but to get over it.. get some ice cream with some friends and try to laugh all u can. then go scope out guyz. get all over some of them ;) that ALWAYS helps. it helped me. and if you wanna make him jealous.. get all over a guy in front of him. lol but anyways.. just have fun and think of all the new things you could start.. maybe this was how it was supposed to turn out for you. it was in the cards. i would be excited to find out whats next.

Answer 6

Do what you do best. Pick yourself up and move on with your life. Don't let one event in your life hold you back from moving forward. Life is like a series of tests. If you fail the first time, know that you have plenty of more tests to take in the future. You have a chance to do much much better each time you take a new test. Keep your head up.

Answer 7

Prepare yourself for the worst things in life but aim for the best. I got dumped once and the next day I had forgotten I was with anyone.

Answer 8

It hurts to get dumped. So admitting that and feeling the pain as fully as possible is the first step.
Then I would think about why it happened, learn as much as I could, without blaming myself even if I made stupid mistakes.
I would then focus on myself, what I want, go workout, and then get the ex-girl out of my mind and go out and date again.
There are always an abundance on women out there.
Remember that, and know that anyone is lucky to have you around.

There are a bunch of dating tips and advice at
http://www.free-dating-service.info

Answer 9

Being dumped is hard. Whether you like it or not, youll be in pain. But youll get over it. Enjoy life, go out with friends, go dancing, or get cozy at home, watch tv with a cup of coffee, anything your heart desires. When your ready, try meeting better guys.

Answer 10

Well this is what I would do:
1. Go home and scream then cry.
2. Send him h*** mail.
3. Hide p***ography in his house.
4. And blame it on him when u get arrested!
WARNING: DONT TRY THIS!

What u should do:
1. Take a deep breath and think about attempting the above!
LOL

Answer 11

my b/f dump me 2 like a week ago i did cry all night and stuff but my friends dont think i should wast all my time crying 4 dat 1 guy there r always more guy like there r more fishes in da sea so dont b sad if he dump u u'll find a nother guy dat love u more than he did