i need help!!!?

Question

ok im 15 and my boyfriend is 19 and he just purposed to me and i said yes ok but thats not the problem his family disaproves of me and my family dis aproves of him what should we do we love each other dearly and we dont wanna break up

Answer 1

How long have you two been together?
You might want to wait until you're 18 before making one of the biggest decisions ever. Plus, I think 18 is the legal marriage age for most states.
Your family prolly disapproves of him because of the age difference and the fact that you're only 15. You're really young and they could be afraid that you don't know what you're getting yourself into. Have you thought about why he purposed already?
Getting engaged, but having your parents disapprove of him (and vice versa), doesn't mean you two have to break up...call it a long engagement. It's only 3 years and you can see how the relationship is going. If he really loves you, he'll wait...and that could give some time for the your parents and his to start "approving."

Answer 2

Sorry kiddo but in the eyes of the law you are still a minor and will be for another three years. However, your boyfriend is legally an adult and could go to jail if the two of you were to get caught doing what you shouldn't be doing. Anyway, since you are still a minor the only way you can get married is with a parent's permission which it sounds like you don't have. What are you in such a hurry for anyway... you're only 15!!!!! Give yourself some time to mature and you may discover that he's not the right guy for you. Think about it. He's 19 and he's dating a 15 year old. Something's a little off here.

Answer 3

If you were my 15 year old daughter, I'd chop his balls off and have them bronzed to remind you how clueless you were at this point.

If he was my 19 year old son, I'd laugh at him and make fun of him for a) not WANTING to be single, and b) Not being able to find someone his own age.

Go on, throw your life away. I know you aren't going to listen to anyone here, so go on. Get knocked, have a kid at 17, everything is going to be just FINE for YOU. You know why? Because yall are different. It's true love for you. Yall are not like all of the other MILLIONS of teen couples out there that do the EXACT same thing and felt EXACTLY THE SAME WAY YOU DO NOW, but end up getting a divorced, with you taking care of the kids full-time and not being able to finish school or get advanced training so you always live right at the poverty level or at the whim of some guy that says he's gonna take care of you but instead beats you and belittles you every day. And NOOooo, your stupid b/f isn't going to be paying 1/3 of his income for the next 25 years for child support. Yall are DIFFERENT. Yall are SPECIAL.

Answer 4

I would suggest that you postpone this marriage. If he truly loves you, then time is the answer. Who knows, maybe he might not prove to be the perfect guy for you that you thought he was?

You probably don't want to hear this, and I don't blame you, but this is a very big decision to make. I think it would do you some good to experience life as a single woman for a tad longer.

I know I preach a lot that the best lessons are learned through failure, but I wouldn't want to think that I had anything to do with suggesting someone make a decision that could potentially have devastating repercussions.

Take my advice. Tell him you love him and that you agree to marry him, but you think the two of you should wait until you're a little older before you do. This does two things. It shows him that you love him, and that you truly do wish to go through with it, and by the same coin, makes it a testament of his love to you.

As a couple side bonuses to this, (making it a win win win win situation) your families will both grow to respect an ongoing bond that the two of you have over time. If you wait it out, it is likely that they will both come around eventually and approve of your marriage. (Wouldn't you love to have a happy wedding with both of your families blessings?)

Second, the relieved tension of the decision you're making will make it easier to graduate from highschool. You'll be able to concentrate on your work without constantly stressing about it.

I know this is a lot to consider, but I think if you weigh your options, there is nothing to lose by doing it this way.

If he truly loves you, he will respect your wishes, and the two of you will live happily together throughout your future. Good luck.

Answer 5

You are 15, slow down. You have a few years ahead of you before you need to go making family plans. Finish high school before you marry. In truth, you need to try and get some kind of college too, but that is expensive and may not be feasible. Anyway, you don't need to rush the marriage thing. Be content with each other until you are older. After you have your high school diploma and turn 18, you won't need either familiy to approve of the other, you'll both be adults (by law & maturity) and be able to make that decision without concern if mom and dad care. If you really love each other, it'll be worth the wait of a few more years.

If you are still impatient and want to get married anyway, check out this website: http://www.law.cornell.edu/topics/Table_Marriage.htm to find out what your state laws are or to see if there is a state near you that will allow you to marry without consent.

Personally, I'd go with choice number one and finish high school first.

Good luck.

Answer 6

If he truly loves you he will wait until you are of age to be married.
This will also show both sets of parents that the two of you combined can prove that there is some common-sense here. Your parents probably think he is too old and his may think that you are only a child and know nothing of love.
If love really exists in this relationship, don't rush into things. You may still have the chance to get married but only time will tell.
Wait until you are 18. Your feelings may even change as you grow and mature, so don't get married just yet.

Answer 7

What you will understand when you get older is life can be very long and ALOT can change in 5-10-15 years. If you truly love him then i would wait on the marriage, getting married now will only make things tougher on you two. Could there be a chance he proposed because he wants to sleep with you? i dated my high school sweetheart from the age of 15 till 22 and then i caught her cheating on me, I NEVER thought that would happen.... Take it slow, no need to rush.... especially with the sex and marriage aspect, and who knows if he shows you are worth the wait maybe your parents (and his) will learn to like him (and you) over time. This is a REALLY big issue for you to worry about now, you will have plenty of time when you get outta school to deal with all this stuff

Answer 8

why do you have to break up if you don't get married? I think you both are to young to really know what you want. I say give yourselves a few years and see what happens then. Both parents disaprove because you both are so young. Honey life is short, live it up while you are young. Don't tie yourself down to one and miss out on a lot of life. Once you are married, I believe it should be for keeps.

Answer 9

Anyone with a brain would disapprove of a 15 year old agreeing to marry a 19 year old because 15 year olds are too immature to make decisions that have life long consequences. If you truly love Mr. 19, wait 3 year to marry him. Afterall, if your love is forever, what is 3 years?

Answer 10

I hate to say this, but I've been through a similar thing. If the parents don't like him, it'll never work. You'll always have conflict somewhere. Same with his family. You're only 15, I don't even think marriage should be in your mind. He's pretty young too. I think if he loved you he'd wait.