how can i better understand the severe depression my friend is going through?

Question

so that I might be better equipped to help? or is it something he has to work out on his own?

Answer 1

You don't necessarily have to UNDERSTAND depression to help someone who is depressed. But I'll give it a try anyway:

Depression can be a slippery illness, because it affects how things SEEM, not how they ARE. Many depressed people can function normally in society, they are just less happy about it. When you're depressed, it feels like there is a barrier between yourself and the world... I used to describe it as being like wearing a thick suit made of syrup. It feels hard to move around and do things, to get interested or keep your attention focused. And things seem to stick to you, things that other people would brush off just hangs around all day.

Someone who is depressed probably isn't going to go out and find things that are fun to do or people who are supportive, which just makes things worse! ) :

It's good that your friend has someone like you. Just take a whack at cheering them up as you might anyone else. Even if you aren't successful, they'll probably appreciate the effort! You might even be able to guide them into some kind of treatment like counseling, anti-depressants, and the like. If they're anything like me, they'll resist you about it, but if they're anything like me, it will do them a world of good!

Answer 2

You can't understand it when someone is going through a deep depression. And they won't be able to explain it to you. I know because I've been there. It's a very lonely and sad time for everyone and if you've seen the commercials for depression, that's EXACTLY how they feel!!! Some can work it out on their own (I did), but others need to talk to professionals and/or get medication to help deal with it.
Be there for your friend and offer your help, but understand when they reject you, that you can't take it too personally. It's a really difficult time, so don't give up on them!!!

Answer 3

Depression is not something that you can fix on your own. Make sure that your friend sees a doctor so he can be evaluated and put on the proper medication. You can find out more about depression and how to help by checking out the links available thru Webmd or MedlinePlus. Be there for your friend, having someone to talk to means a lot. Been there.

Answer 4

If he's going through severe depression, it's best if he talks to someone professionally. It can be very helpful.

You can be a good friend by letting him know you're there for him if he needs to talk, needs a hug, etc. As for understanding what he's feeling, try asking him to explain it to you (if you think he'd be ok with that). Ask him how he feels on all levels when he's depressed: physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and level of energy.

Answer 5

People rarely, if ever, can work out severe depression on their own. Your willingness to read up to help your friend is admirable, however, it is best to get him to a health professional for counseling and meds to be taken under supervision.
Your community health services will have a list of agencies that can help and guide him to them. Pick up their brochures at the same time so that you, indeed, can understand and help him.
You are a good friend. Good luck.

Answer 6

Well my best friend goes through depression in which he is bipolar and goes through mood swings. But just talking and try to give some inspirational advise. Your friend my need to seek some help from a Doctor with meds. Good luck!

Answer 7

It's very important for you to be a supportive friend.
Try to listen objectively and avoid the temptation to offer advice.
If he doesn't want to talk about it, give him some time and space. Depression, especially severe, is a call for help. Try to be there for him as much as you can.

Answer 8

most of the parts, your friend has to work this out on his/her own, no one can save you from depression besides yourself. BUT, you can help your friend. i went through depression and hardly ever smiled for about a semester, but i had a friend close by; actually TWO. but one was always happy, she listened to me, and just laughed and tried to cheer me up so constantly, that i couldn't feel glum. it helps a lot. and my other friend talked to me, and when a person in depression wants someone to TALK TO, or to LISTEN, you don't just answer that person, " m hm, yea, right, i know" DON'T do that. REALLY talk to that person, CONNECT with that person. cuz that is what really helps a depressed person. and try to lead your friend's mind off to happier things, like my "laughy" friend did. those two friends were my lifesavers. take it from someone who's experienced it, the most important person a depressed person needs, is person to talk to and for them to listen. good luck with your friend! =) ps. always try this before going to a doctor, a doctor doesn't KNOW you or your friend, all they can do, is prescribe a medicine. someone who can get through is the most important. if things really get too out of hand, suggest help from a medical expert. once again, good luck.

Answer 9

He have to work it out on his own ,talking an issue out is a good way.Or conffessing your deepest secrets to someone you can trust is the best way. becuse he need to dump some of that garbage out that he's been holding on the inside.

Answer 10

well it wont jsuit weork itself out she is gonna need seriouse help. To better ubderstand just imagine you are ALWAYS upset nothing ever goes your way and in general all you want to do ever is cry.