My ex-boyfrend and his fiancee, a woman I dated and was best friends with for two years, is getting married this August. The break-up with the man was about as horrible as any break-up ever could be. For about a year before the break-up, the three of us were a committed manage a trois, and we expected to live together in the future.The woman and I never really broke up, we still see each other every once in a while, but the romance is pretty much gone. We're still friends, though I tend to avoid her fiancee because he didn't take the break-up very well.
They sent me a wedding invitation this morning. I don't know what to think of it- if they sent me an invitation, does that mean they want me to go, or they want to be polite and fully expect me not to go? Do I look rude if I don't go? I don't know if I want to go, though most of my friends will be there, and I'd like to give the couple a gift and let them know I'm happy for them. I just don't know what the polite thing to do is.
2006-07-26 10:03:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Personally, I wouldn't have wanted any of my husband's ex girlfriends at our wedding, but your case is a little unique, but if the breakup with him was pretty nasty, I'd probably avoid the wedding. I'm tending to think you got an invite because the bride still considers you somewhat of a friend, and since most of your other friends were invited, she wanted to be polite. Now it's your turn to do the polite thing, respectfully decline. Lie, and say you've got a conflict if asked. You can still send a gift and a card wishing them well.
2006-07-26 12:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she sent the invite and he wouldnt want you there, don't go. Send them a gift and card. Otherwise, go to the wedding. I would say that's a very odd situation though and it would at some point be uncomfortable for someone so if it were me I'd avoid it.
2006-07-26 10:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by cocoanutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice is up to you. If it makes you feel uncomfortable decline the invitation and send a gift. Otherwise, make an appearance, then leave. There's no law forcing you to go.
2006-07-26 11:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go, it sounds to me like they're trying to rub your face in it, kind of a "see what you're missing" deal. I wouldn't send a gift, just a card.
2006-07-26 12:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i wouldn't go..be too weird
2006-07-26 11:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by pepsigrlfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go.
2006-07-26 11:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go, they are being nice but why go?
2006-07-26 11:01:08 · answer #7 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go
2006-07-26 10:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way hosea................................................................................byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
2006-07-26 10:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋