We spend lots of time together, and we havent known each other for very long. We met because we are planning to share an apt. We kissed twice, when we were drunk. And he said that he wont let himself be interested because it would be akward to share an apt after that. So, what do I do to change his mind?
2006-07-26 10:00:49 · 21 answers · asked by olayak 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HONEY, YOU ALREADY DID.
it might, in fact, ruin your roommate situation.
you will SOON become bedpartners, and if that doesn't work out, you will NO LONGER BE ROOMMATES ~~ because the feelings have changed and you won't be able to deal with living there emotionally (that applies to him too)
2006-07-26 10:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will have to make a choice. He has set the boundaries that he is not ready or willing to act as a live-in couple when you two hardly know each other. You can find another place to stay as long as he is willing to accept a relationship with you or live in the same apt but sleep in different rooms as no more than roommates...ever! You should be the roommate first as there is no better way to get to know someone than by living with them.
Does he leave the toilet seat up, does he squeeze the toothpaste from the top or bottom of the tube, will he replace the toilet paper when it runs out? Perhaps you might be turned off by his habits. Stay friends and possibly become 'better' friends!
Good luck!
2006-07-26 17:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's right, it could be awkward, living together, if you become intimate. However it could be a lot of fun too. One problem, is moving from friends to lovers, isn't easy. But you do have one advantage, you are living together.
If you kiss again, be sure you are sober, and once you are in that embrace, kiss him like a lover, using your body, tight against his, your tongue in his mouth. That could just open him up to the possibilities.
If setting up the kiss is difficult, there are ways to make him notice you, in other ways. Leaving the shower, with a towel, a small towel, wrapped around your body. Covering it all, barely. So he can see what you have to offer him.
If that doesn't do the trick, then, I don't know what will. He'd have to be dead or gay, and it seems he's neither.
So go to it girl, if you want him to be your lover, show him the goods. Or at least a taste of them.
2006-07-26 17:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why in the world would you want to change his mind on the matter after he has already said what he did? I suggest you do as he says. Date others and have a good time, if it is meant for you to later have a relationship it will happen without you having to pull any tricks on him to get what you want. When 2 people fall in love, it is not planned but happens naturally. That is how you know it was meant to be. It is beyond your control. believe me, I have been married for 35 years, still in love and I didn't even like him when I met him. LOL My first one didn't work out because he was not to be the one for me.
2006-07-26 17:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by goofyface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices in the matter. He's already expressed his opinion about the situation. If you want to respect that, do so and leave him alone. If you still want to be with him romantically, you have to make the first move. A SOBER kiss should be a good indication on how well it might go. Expressing what you feel might be a good idea as well.
2006-07-26 17:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by King Matthew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to get together by yourselves. Go out for a drive in the country or to a quiet dinner. Have a few drinks (buy not while driving) and see what happens. If there is chemistry on both sides then it will come out in the open when given a chance.
2006-07-26 17:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by stephanierudder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah but once you go romantic, you cant go back to friends. Thats just how it is. If he said he wont get romantic, you should repsect that especially if you two are going to live together. But what if he brings a chic to the place? You cant get mad, hes not your man. Take a step back and think about what is gonna happen. It can be good or extremely bad. Good Luck!!!
2006-07-26 17:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♠♣♥Rogue♣♥♠ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey just sit down and talk to him tell him how u feel. Now if he doesnt want to have a relationship then u need to keep him as a friend nothing more because afterall u guys are going to be living together.
2006-07-26 17:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by Veronica A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best off talking this through...from his previous comment he won't act on any hints of yours, so discuss the living arrangements because you want more than a room mate...beware...you might not be his type, listen with an open mind don't make him say what you want to hear, tell him you expect the honest truth about this issue..good luck.
2006-07-26 17:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well girl my advice to you is tell him how you feel tell him about your feelings towards him and then ask him why did he kiss you? and remember no matter if you are drunk you things you want to do so he probably likes you but doesnt want to risk it with a relationship right now so tell him how you feel exactly and then give it sometime dont presure him becuase then he is going to dislike you so just be patient k and good luck!
2006-07-26 18:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by bronze23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋