how do i tell my sister in law to potty train her daughter?

Question

my niece is almost 4 and not potty train, we usually take her to birthday party of our's friends kids, but i dont want to anymore until she's potty trian, and i dont now how to tell my sister in law. help please, i love my niece and she's beautyfull (i dont have kids)but we love to take her with our's friends kids

Answer 1

Print this off for her:
Here it is- it has worked for my 2 kids,and others after I tell them........

1. get m and m's handy
2. get a small potty chair
3. get a couple books about potty
4. you need to be home for about 4-5 days straight
5. now you can start. let them run around bare-but
6. Set the timer for 1/2 hour. Tell him/her to sit on the potty for 5 min. (read them a book in the mean time if it's to long for them.) If they go, give lots and lots of praise!!! I mean go crazy!! Give them about 3 m and m's.
7. Set the timer for 1/2 hour
8. Avoid asking the question "you got to go potty?'
9. Timer goes off- ok! What does that mean junior? Time to go potty again he or she would say, or you say it if they don't
10. repeat process all day long. If they go # 2 in the potty, reward with a handful of m and m's. They are very colorful and kids love them!!

11. Praise praise praise. I do spank my kids for behavior problems such as lying, disobedience, and bad attitudes, but never for having an accident. If there is an accident, clean it up queitly, and don't say much at all. Remind them it's ok, but try to make it in the potty next time, or in your own words.

Good luck!!! Hope this helps you. My girl was potty-trained in 2-3 days with the method. Took my son a week. Leave pull-ups on them at night just in case.
p.s. if this doen't work at all, try again in a few months.

Answer 2

I can really feel your frustration. My circle of friends and I are going through this same type of thing with one of our friends and her grandaughter. The child,of course, is a real cutie and we all think the world of her, but she has just been in diapers wayyyyyy to long! She finally ended up getting a kidney infection a couple of weeks ago and spent the better part of two days having medical tests and being poked and prodded beyond belief. The last party that we were all gathered at ended up being a tense situation, because the poor child was in a dirty diaper most of the day...it was aggrevating the heck out of most of us; but didn't seen to be bothering her Mom or Grandma. I am amazed that your niece hasn't had any horrible infections. Does she go to pre-school, if she does socialize with other children, she will be rediculed about the potty training. Little children can be very forthright and may even come across as mean. Is your niece an only child? Is your sister in law trying to keep her "baby?" There are just so many factors at play here. I don't know how you approach this in a manner that is not going to make your sister in law upset. What does the childs' father think? Is he involved. Are you sure that your niece is not having some kind of medical problem that is not being discussed, and that is why she is still in diapers? My own daughter would get infections at the drop of a hat when she was little, and was even allergic to certain soaps and bubble baths and laundry detergents, so she was potty trained around 20 months, just for the sake of her health. Our friend is invited to a big going away-moving away party a bunch of us are throwing for one of our friends and her husband and kids in a couple of weeks, as they are moving several hundred miles away. There is going to be a pool and a giant water slide and lots of water related toys, and this little girl is not going to be able to participate in any of this, because she cannot do these things in a diaper. So we will have to wait and see what happens. Maybe you can check with some local preschools and/ or day care centers in your area and see if anyone there has any suggestions ??? Best of luck to all of you and especially to your niece, it must be uncomfortable going around in a diaper all the time.

Answer 3

Well most schools want kids potty trained already. But if your sister ask es you to look after her, and if I was you I would start making her learn when you have her. I know it's a long process, but it will save you sister doing it, and she will probably be happy that you did. Has she put in school yet? And what has her school said about your niece being potty trained.

Answer 4

Thats horrible for the development of her child. Its not love to hold off certain things because it simplifies a parents life.

Just tell her she should seriously consider potty training, this child is old enough to be starting preschool.

Potty training should be well underfoot by now.

Thats just sad. Unless there is a medical reason there is no excuse for that.

Most doctors say no earlier than two and a half? what the hell? I was potty trained at 18 months. not because my mom made me learn, but because i wanted to go potty in my own potty like a big girl. Dont let standarized medical practices decide the learning abilities of your child, thats just pathetic.

Answer 5

In some cases it is better to wait until the child is mentally ready to be potty trained, however 4 years old is a bit of a stretch! Maybe you could surprise her with a beautiful potty chair and potty products to try and ease the suggestion in because when it comes to parents and children you have to be very careful not to offend anyone. Good Luck to you and God Bless You!

Answer 6

Just tell your sister in law that you love spending time with her daughter but she is getting to old for you to assist her going potty and you would feel more comfortable not taking her any where until she is potty trained. Your sister in-law just needs to be consistent in her efforts on getting her trained I do not know what state you live in but in my state kids start kindergarten at 5 and they need to be potty trained. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Honestly 4 isn't bad Some times if you train too early it will cause them to not want to go until then. My daugher was in school at 4 so she had to be trained by then. At 3 we start training but most docs recommend you to start no earlier then 2 and 1/2. I would honestly just as her if they are having trouble potty training because she very well could be having trouble. I they are not trying then yell at her.

Answer 8

Kids can't start school until they're potty trained, and it takes some kids a long time to get it. You could bring that up as an issue.

Answer 9

It is none of your business. You get to decide with your own children, not with someone else's. I have 5 children, 3 potty trained well before their second birthday's and one who waited until he was 4. Some kids just weren't given the calendar with the schedule all filled in for them when they were born.

Answer 10

Just tell her " Hey Sis, you really need to start potty training your daughter" If you need help I'd be glad to help teach her. But I think that's rediculous that she's still not potty trained. And if that doesn't work, then everytime YOU have her just sit her on the potty and explain to her what it's used for. Do it yourself. Good luck.