my friend is very critical about other ppl.she`s nice to me but she points out every little flaw of everyone?

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else...without them knowing.then when i yell at my ssiter or niece she says " gosh,(my name),you`re mean."
she`s on the bossy side.and we were n a pool.i cant` swim.she insists that i go out w/her 2 the deep end and that she can hold me up if i go down.
we get out there and i`m doing ok at first.then i start to sink.i waslike,"um, (her name)?" she didn`t do anything.(probably didn`t hear me) so i grabbed her thinking we`d b ok.i got up and realized i pulled her under.so i grabbed her up(risking my life since i can`t swim and i barely had a grip on the poolside)i made sure she was ok and we went on playing around.then later someone said something and she goes " yea and SHE pulld me all the way down to the bottom!" n a very accusing tone.and she made fun of me 4 being scared 2 go out n the deep end.I REMIND U! I CAN`T SWIM!
she`s making me mad and i sorta want to help her.

DUH she talks bout me behind my back!
should i ask her why she does this?

Answer 1

Sounds like she's insecure about herself.

Those jokes aren't funny, but it is also a cry for help. Do you have teacher or one of your parents to talk to? You should let them know you're worried about her and tell them what you have said here.

Answer 2

If she is making fun of other people then she is probably doing it to you. I think that when people make fun of others, they are actually trying to make themselves feel better and they don't know any other way. It is just like wife beaters, child molesters, and bullies. They pick on those who are smaller and weaker than themselves to make them feel like "big men". Yeah, there are other reasons, but that is, to me, the main reason. There are also people who have to be the leader of the pack and maybe she's it, but no matter what, don't let her get away with it. If it really bothers you, tell her what you feel or don't be her friend.

Answer 3

People who focus on the "flaws" of others are usually directing the criticism outward to keep from dealing with thier own issues of low self-esteem. She's afraid to look inside herself and deal with what's wrong with her, so she launches attacks on those around her.

That aside, she's toxic - plain and simple. Regardless of whether or not you feel you can be of significant help to her, it seems she's only interested in bringing others down. The friends that are the most valuable are those that build people up.

Answer 4

I had a friend similar to this once. She was always skinnier (even if she wasn't). She always had a smaller azz (even if she didn't). She would date guys after I did just to say, he likes me and not you (even if I dumped them). People like this can only change if they want to. There is nothing you can do to make her a better, nicer person. You have two very obvious choices: Either deal with it, knowing that's just the way she is or dump the chump. It's up to you. You allow yourself to be hurt by her words. You subject yourself (and your friends) to her maltreatment. It's up to you to either radically accept that she's a b*tch or get a new friend. The ball's in your court, not hers.

Answer 5

Remember these two things: 1) Your friend needs attention and will do anything to get it, even if that includes watching her other friend drown. Not a good friend. and 2) Those that gossip TO you will gossip ABOUT you, I bet you that when you're not around, she's cutting you down, too. Great 'friend' you got there, chief.

Answer 6

well t ostart off u need 2 let her know how she makes u feel and u need to tell her that if she keeps acting like that its gonna be harder to make more friends u need to tell her ur being honest and ur telling her this as a friend and tell her u would want her to tell u if u were acting critical

Answer 7

Most people who point out everyones flaws are usually the one that are insecure

Answer 8

If she's doing it to them, you can guarantee she's doing it to you too.

Test her, and get someone to report back. People like that can't help themselves. Why do you think you're getting of scot-free with her?

Answer 9

It amazes me how sooo many of you people can't even recognize that your friends are really NOT your friend, and yet it is sooo obvious to me and most others.....I hope. You people scare me

Answer 10

r u sure she's really your friend???? and BTW if she badmouths everyone what makes you think she doesnt it to you when you're not around?