Well now I believe I have met that guy thru a friend and we hadn't seen each other and just talked over the phone. I was really feeling him. We saw each other and he's not all that cute. He's not extremely ugly, he's just not as cute as other guys I've dated. From what I can tell, he seems to really like me and after seeig me, he likes me even more. Why am I feeling myself pulling away from him? I feel shallow because of the way I am feeling. Someone talk some sense into me.
2006-07-26 09:58:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 26...not a child
2006-07-26 10:03:12 · update #1
What if he was a G.Q. model, and had a tragic accident? He'd still be the sweet, decent guy inside that he always was. Don't jip yourself out of what may become a really good relationship! The more time you spend with him, the more handsome he will become to you. Trust me with this one. Love is in the heart. If he is a good man, then accept him for all that he is, because I'm sure he accepts you. Love is hard to find, don't take that chance of throwing it away over looks honey. Eventually, he will be the most handsome man you have ever met! Please give him the chance to prove it to you.
2006-07-26 10:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy that was dog ugly but had all the traits I wanted in a man. We had an awesome time and even though it went nowhere after the first few months it was well worth the effort. Have a good time and give this guy a chance. If you don't like him still after a few dates then ditch but don't ditch him beccuase of his looks. Wait and see what it is about him that has really turned you off or you may just let the man of your dreams walk away.
2006-07-26 17:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i have been in this exact situation a couple of times. The first time it happened it wasn't all that bad and we were together for 2 years. the second time it happened it didn't make it past a week. I look at it like this, looks aren't everything it's what's in their heart that really counts. My advice to you is to try and get past the looks thing and try to remember all the good qualities that attracted you to him before you saw him and if after that you still don't want to be with him then let him know you just aren't interested.
2006-07-26 17:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by princess_btch01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women are in your shoes. On paper, they want an honest, trustworthy, funny guy.... as long as he is hot. Women often complain that men are "shallow" for wanting attractive women, but perhaps men are just more honest. The fact is that both men and women want good-looking mates... men are just more upfront about it. If you think you have high character, give this guy a chance. At least one honest, decent guy deserves a shot in this world.... instead of standing on the sidelines watching women drool over the good-looking jerks.
2006-07-26 17:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Regularguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't attracted to him physically, it happened with me too. My friend from school, for 4 years had let nothing happen between us other then a friendship, we got along really well, we were honest, laughed alot, hung out a couple of times a week if we could, always paid for one another when we'd go out, sharing pop corn or drinks, it felt like we were kind of dating already I guess....he took the next step to tell me that he likes me and wanted to call me his girlfriend. I didn't know what to do, cause I didn't want to try something and not have any regrets and then ruin what we had. I thought about it more, and thought you know what, 4 years, never one arguement, he already knows my family and everything about me, more or less feels like we're dating, just not physically, besides I cared about him alot already....why not. We tried it, the honeymoon stage was good...but we went out for 6 months, and it took me that long to see it. We had no heat between the two of us, the spark didn't light after the first couple of months....hell we never got as far as taking our pants off!! I went further then that in grade 9!! I feel as though it was because I wasn't attracted to him....so my advice stay friends. After I told him I wasn't attracted to him, after being with him for that long, and knowing him, lets just say he's really bitter and we havne't talked since I broke it off. I would just stay friends with him, cause he's a great guy, right? Besides friendships seem to last longer then most boyfriends.
2006-07-26 17:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 26 and not a child, then you should realize the importance of "not judging a book by its cover" What if this is him.. the man that was made for you, and you don't bother because he is 'ugly'?? Whoa..you have some soul searching to do.
I think being attractive to some one involves more than looks!!
2006-07-26 17:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's okay
someppl like other for diffrent reasons
being cute,smart,funny ect.
if u want someone cute thats fine it's nothing 2 worry about
ur not shallow just because u have second thoughts
go with it for a cuple weeks see how u fell then not now
best of luck 2 u
2006-07-26 17:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by Tite Chickaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your problem is FEAR. i had the same problem with the guy im dating now, but ive gotten over that fear and now we cant be any happier. theres no need to feel shallow, i prefer average guys than the "cute guys" because average guys appreciate and treat girls a lot better. just folow your instincts, itll save u a lot of trouble. and dont let this one get away!!
2006-07-26 17:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by sarah_gotdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not attracted to him don't lead him on. Your not shallow. The worst thing to do is make him think he has a chance when he really doesn't. And the fact that you are asking this question tells me he doesn't have a chance. Be real.
2006-07-26 17:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by woodybmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny looks dnt mean a thing, i dnt think your shallow. Its hard when all you have dated attractive guys follow your heart wats meant to be will always find a way
2006-07-26 17:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Annie W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋