i do! especially when they don't have a child or anything...and i have to keep my mouth shut if i don't want to seem "jealous"!!!
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2006-07-26 09:57:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, I'm going to be the voice of reason for this question. First of all, I am still best friends with two of my ex-girlfriends. And what makes that possible? I am good friends with both of the husbands. I think it's silly for couples to have to give up previous friendships with single people because they got married.
What it amounts to is the basis of women's self-esteem. Women base their self-esteem on comparison. Example: If she is so beautiful, that must mean that I am ugly. Reality: You are who you are and whether you're next to a beautiful woman or a plain one, you are *still* who you are. Your self-esteem shouldn't be relative.
So just because your husband or boyfriend likes (friendly-wise) another woman, does *not* mean that he likes you less. You mean the same amount to him whether he likes her or hates her.
PS - Men base their self-esteem on what they own or do.
2006-07-26 10:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by scottopherroy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do, an ex should be just that an ex. Even if they have kids that only requires and exchange of the child and child related things, not chit chat. Of course I also hate being on the other side of it and having to stay in contact with an ex because we have kids together. I would have preferred eliminating him from my life completely, of course I like his wife much more than him so I solved the problem by talking with her when things needed discussing!
2006-07-26 17:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hated it for years until he finally put an end to their relationship(they do not have a child together) 9 years later she and I have put aside our hatred and are fast becoming friends. Yes they are ex(s) for a reason, but all of it was before I came into the picture. I know that my husband loves me.
2006-07-26 17:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by cautionim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through that crap twice with two husbands. My best advice: Put your foot down! Just tell them that you don't approve of this, that its bothering you, and that it will stop or else! And if you still catch them talking, etc., then stand behind your word! Tell them to take a hike! Also, if the ex is instigating this then have a word or two with them.
2006-07-26 17:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by stephanierudder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do not get to the point where you feel that you have to tell them not to. Do not attempt to change a person , just keep in mind what they 're doing and have a discussion about it at a later date when time presents itself.
2006-07-26 17:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mr.Mann1264 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because love didnt work out dont mean they cant be friends maybe they make better friends than lovers as long as they are noy sleeping together would you give up friendship with someone you been close to
2006-07-26 17:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by firefightingexpert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone should -- unless they have a child or loan together the only reason to keep in contact is the sex
2006-07-26 17:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by Smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me! its like ok why are they talking to them if they don't like their ex anymore supposedly. or maybe its cuz i'm just a really jealous person
2006-07-26 17:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by chica™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hated it because that led to an affair that might not be your case. I'm just saying that was my case.
2006-07-26 17:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it, if they left off on good terms, then they should remain friends.
2006-07-26 17:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋