I'm adopted but when I write to my real mom is it ok to call her mom even if my adoptive mom feels weird?

Answer 1

Gilmore 101-----i was adopted as well & in 1961 you stayed in the Hospital several days then i went on to live my Life as far as calling your Natural Mum Mother why not call her by her first name if i ever meet my Mum Virginia A. Wilson i will call her by her name not MOM or MUM or Mother

Answer 2

She is your mother, people think when a woman gives a child in adoption is because she is irresponsible and many times women are treated really bad because of that. Every case in unique and you need to know the circumstances to make you real mom gave you away.

You Adoptive Mom is your mother too... Why? she has just gave you everything as a real mother, she deserve to been called mom too.

You have two mothers feel blessed.

Answer 3

Shes not your real mom per say she just gave birth to you your adoptive mom is the one who has loved and cared for you but everyone has a right to know where they came from my cousin was adopted and went thru this, he found his birth mother and she did want anything to do with her she was a drug addict and worthless but now he knows where he came from and has a better appreciation for his parents now. If your birth mother wants to know you and you have question then I say go for it but make sure your adoptive mom knows you still consider her you mom and your love for her has in no way changed just cause you want to know your birth mom. She is probably a little insecure thinking you may leave her,and a little worried that you may not find what you want.

I say if you think it is right then you have the right to do it but let your adoptive parents know if has no affect on the relationship you have with them.In all it is your choice but you could start calling her by her firs name and go from there.

Answer 4

you should call her mom if that is what you want to call her. She is your mom too. maybe your adoptive mom would accept it better if she realized how lucky you are to have 2 people who care about you so much. Certainly with time your adoptive mom will become more accepting of the situation.

Answer 5

Call her by her first name. I was also adopted and found my birth mom. You are your adoptive mother's child, she does all of the mom stuff for you good bad or indifferent, she is your mom. You shouldn't disrespect her by referring to your birth mother as "Mom". She may be biologically your mother and she may be someone you really like, but she's not your mom.

Answer 6

The decision as to what you call your biological mother is basically up to you, but it takes much more than having delivered you to be a "mom". Your real mom is the woman who was there meeting your daily needs, giving of herself, loving you without question, protecting you, and allowing you the freedom to grow to the person you are today. I'm sure that it is not mere jealousy that is making her feel "weird" but a sense of deep hurt. First and foremost her feelings should take precedence. Think of something else you can call your biological mother, I'm sure she would understand that the title "Mom" belongs to the one person who chose to raise, care, and love you.

Answer 7

It should be a little uncomfortable for you, since you don't know her like that. Just call her by her name. The mom is not always the one that gives birth to you but the one that was there in the middle of the night when you were scared or sick.

Answer 8

Call them both mom it doesn't matter. They might ask you who weigh more in your heart, reassure your adoptive mom and tell her nothing will change. I think your adoptive mom will understand.

Answer 9

your real mom is called ur mother and ur adoptive mom is called ur mom just like father and dad it shouldnt be weird good luck with it

Answer 10

she technically is your mom so you can. your adoptive mom might feel jealous of this but it is normal. might want to meet with your real mom and get to know her in person and see why it was she gave you up.