He really likes me and I have tried telling him I couldn't be with him. I am older and I have a son. He is young and very handsome and can get any girl. He is not even intimidated and I'm older. I have known him for about 6 yrs. I don't want to be mean. What should I do?
2006-07-26 09:53:33 · 19 answers · asked by Susa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with you, he is too young. You know that women mature faster than men. This young man is at a age he doesn't really know what he wants. You also have the responsibility of your child to think about. I believe at this point he just likes what he sees. At that age they think of the now and not the future. I am an older and much wiser person than either of you. I suggest you just tell him that you like him but that you need to move on with your life and start dating older men that are responsible and could give you and your child a good life.Tell him you can remain friends.
If he gives you a hard time about it then that just shows you how immature he still is.
2006-07-26 10:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by goofyface 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him..so what if yuo are 6 years older. You being a female will live on an average 3-5 years more any way. What would you think if you are 78 years old one day and had 4 failed mariages...I am glad I rejected a 19 year old so I could have these 4 four marriages? True love is hard to find. Stay with this dude and be supportive, make sure he finishes studies and grows up a good man to get older with!
2006-07-26 16:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by dude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a mature 19 or a young 19? I'm 6yrs older than my wife but we r much older than 25:) Is it more than sexual attraction? You say u have known him 4 6yrs, only u would no if he is sincere or just looking 4 an "older" woman. In a relationship compatability is the most important. Take it from someone who knows:) wish u the best!
2006-07-26 17:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age shouldn't matter. He obviously likes you and you have known each other for a long time. He apparently likes your son too. What's the problem ?? The only thing I can see is that you might be self conscious around him.....I know of three cases in our family where either the wife or the husband is much older than the other spouse. If it is working , in my opinion, it's right !
Run with it and be happy !
2006-07-26 17:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is nothing but a number. I've dated women with a much larger age gap than what your dealing with. If he cares for you and want to find if there can be something more, see what happens. However, if you don't share the same feelings of curiosity let him know you just don't see him as a person you want to be intimate with. Age should never be a deciding factor in if you want to be with someone unless they aren't legal.
2006-07-26 17:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Wife is 4 years older than I am...
It presented no problems...
Of course, she said I acted a lot older than she did, and everyone thought I was older too...
If your not willing to give love a try, then tell him to get out of your life, because he will hang around, waiting and hoping that he has a chance.
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-26 16:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please give him a Chance,I was in a realation ship with a girl who was three years older then me,We were owsome friends for one whole year and then things started changing between us and we started getting into fights almost evertday and i gave her some time to think about what she wants and she went ahead and made this new guy friends who happened to propose her and once i found out i left her,,, but please dont do that to him ,Give him a chance.
2006-07-26 16:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by Khan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT DEPENDS ON IF YOU REALLY LIKE HIM OR NOT. IF YOU LIKE HIM, THEN AGE DOES NOT MATTER. MY HUSBAND IS 6 YRS OLDER THAN ME AND THAT DID NOT STOP US.YOU JUST NEED TO FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND MIND. ON THE OTHER HAND, IF YOU HONESTLY DO NOT LIKE HIM, THEN YOU SHOULD FIND THE BEST WAY TO JUST FLAT OUT TELL HIM; AND WHEN YOU TELL HIM, MAKE IT PLAIN AND SIMPLE. DO NOT BEAT AROUND THE BUSH BECAUSE THAT COULD MAKE IT MORE DIFFICULT FOR HIM TO GET THE PICTURE.
2006-07-26 17:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by MrstBailey_hot and fiesty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont like him tell him but if you are just worried about the age that is no big deal age is only a number it means nothing to being in love i am 43 and my wife is 26 we are very happy together if you both are of leagle age it means nothing
2006-07-26 17:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by firefightingexpert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally belive age aint nothin but a number as long as its legal (in your case it is) and you are both honest about the situation. It all depends on how you feel about him...follow your heart.
2006-07-26 16:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by crimsondime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋