I was with my ex-gf for almost 2 and a half years. We've been long distance a good portion of the relationship because she was in school. Anyway, long story short, we got into a small fight last week and she basically said she was done with the relationship. She said she was no longer in love with me, and felt I was like a brother or friend to her now... I flew out to see her to see if it was true, and she kept her distance. She said it's just gone. But, according to her, it wasn't sudden, but more gradual since we have not been able to see each other much this summer (Memorial Day was the last time).
Is this possible? Is she telling herself she no longer loves me so she can move on? Is she just confused with her new environment? Should I just let her go and move on with my life, or understand that she just needs some space right now? It just seems like it's not possible, because of the way it happened, but maybe I'm just in denial...
2006-07-26 09:51:56 · 24 answers · asked by dk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is possible to fall out of love with someone, but usually its because of something that happened not because it just happened. And I think you should go on with your life.............You know the old saying, If you love someone let them go and if they come back to you, you know it was meant to be.
2006-07-26 09:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by todayillsee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep it happens everyday. Haven't you heard that long distance relationships don't work? Love requires a connection, a history and you can't build one when you aren't involved in someones day to day life, when you aren't around to go through life situations with them. Loving someone is no guarantee that it will last forever. If it was everyone would marry the first person they ever thought they loved and stay happy forever...do you really think thats how it works? You have no choice but to let her go and move on, its not like if you stomp your feet really hard the situation will change. She has moved on you need to accept that and do the same. And don't get hung up on the WHY, it doesn't matter anyway, having some big mysterious answer to why doesn't change what is and thats the only thing you need to deal with.
2006-07-26 16:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is possible for people to fall out of love with someone and based on how she described it happening (gradually) that sounds like she really did. So I would say give her space, but at the same time move on because while she might just need space, she may really not be in love with you anymore and you have to accept that if that is what's going on.
2006-07-26 16:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have to keep the relationship there. If you don't see each other or do things together then yes I believe you can fall out of love with each other. You may still care about the person but not be in love with them any longer.
2006-07-26 16:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Henry T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's possible. If you can fall out of love with someone, maybe you were never really, truly in love with them in the first place. Sounds like she's not letting you hold her back, so you shouldn't let her hold you back. I know it's hard, especially after so long, but go do things you never got to do when you were together - maybe that'll get your mind off of her!
2006-07-26 16:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very possible to fall out of love with someone. Especially when you are long distance and have others around you. Let her go and move on
2006-07-26 16:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god yes! move on, you will find a lasting love. People grow apart. Some people are addicted to the "Newness feeling" (I am one of them) so when that is gone, they don't really feel like they are in love anymore.
Plus, no always being together leaves alot of loneiness. She probably wants to start a new relationship with someone whom she can be with more. (just my opinion)
2006-07-26 17:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjno7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its possible. People change and go through different phases all of the time. Its does happen. There is nothing wrong with it. You never know love is funny and life is interesting. Things can bring people closer together when they least expect it. Follow your gut instinct.
2006-07-26 16:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by hopeISalive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just let go of that type of relationship with her and just be her "brother, friend" I too had the same changed feelings from my guy of 7 years.....although we even lived together we just grew apart instead of close....I felt he was more of a best friend no more than that other then my kids father......I wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-26 16:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it happens i had a bf when i was 16 and we were together for 2 years and it just got to where i didnt have the love for him anymore i moved to a different state and he followed and when i seen him i just felt like a sick feeling i didnt want to hurt him but i just didnt love him anymore so yes she is probably telling you the truth im sorry
2006-07-26 16:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by melodym28_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋