I have been dating this guy for 1 year and at first I figured he was metrosexual because he would always keep up with his hygiene like using face cream cutting his own hair and then it started getting alittle suspecious when he was picking outfits out better than me and using lipsmackers with sparkles in them, He has only one guy friend and that guy friend acts and walks gay and never has a girlfriend but also claims to be straight, He always points out in movies " he is attractive for an older man" or " isn't tom hanks cute like a teddy bear" He has all anus pornos he even had the soundtrack to the series queer as folk, I heard from his ex-girlfriend that he had a bisexual experience a couple years ago with a girl and a guy and let the guy ejaculate on his chest, but of course he denies it, I confronted him about the queer as folk soundtrack and his face got red, and he said he just bought it because it had good music, He never kisses me and is not affectionite at all, IS HE GAY?
2006-07-26 09:46:37 · 15 answers · asked by KV 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well and then it got to the point as we were living together he started picking me apart and telling to obey his rules at his house like I was a child, everytime we go out together if there is an attractive guy I can tell he is looking, His bestfriend I also think is gay and one time we all went on a ski trip and I told his friend about how my boyfriend will jump on me and tease me in the mornings and the friend said " oh he does the same thing to me" and on the car ride home I am in the back seat while his friend is driving and my boyfriend is in the passanger seat and his friend is playing ace of base and one song was like " I'm a diva" hahaha I was so freaked out, He would also spend the night at his house alot and when they would take ski trips together I found condoms in his bag he took with him, I caught his friend checking him out alot also, thanks for your replies everyone this was extremely helpful , I do love him but I wouldn't want to marry someone who hides this!
2006-07-26 11:28:34 · update #1
He might be gay or bi-curious. He possibly wants to act straight by having a girl friend with him. Some guys do this to cover the fact that they do prefer men. Did he act like this for the whole year ? You can be a neat freak, but it sounds like he has carried it one step farther. I would ask him to explain himself to you....You don't say how you feel about him...but it sounds that if he never kisses you and is not affectionate that something is up.......it could be he only wants to be friends, as I mentioned, to cover up his gayness.
2006-07-26 09:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you need to ask that question about your boyfriend, you really need to get out of the relationship. It doesn't mean that he is gay for sure, but regardless of sexual orientation - if someone is into you (guy, girl, whatever) they want to hug and kiss you and be close with you. The fact that he doesn't is a HUGE problem and you need to re-evaluate WHY you are with him.
2006-07-26 09:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kerr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is bisexual or gay. If he does not kiss you, make love to you or show you romantic affection after a year of dating, something is going on.
2006-07-26 09:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Regularguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be straight now and dosn't now that he wants a guy just explain to him that we are going to take some time off cuz i think you might like guyz tell him to find out then give you a call
2006-07-26 09:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey,
It sounds like you know the answer!!! I would say yes, just by the information you are telling us! But one question: if "he never kisses me and is not affectionate at all" like you say....why would you want to be with him??? Don't you want to have someone love you and be affectionate with you?? I couldn't imagine being with someone like that!! And smackers with sparkles...whoa whoa. My hubby won't hardly wear carmex cause its "girlie" Facts are louder than words!!
2006-07-26 09:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl find you a new man this dude sounds like a straigt F A G. Why would you be with him if he does that gay stuff. Ppl are gonna start thinkin you two are some weirdos if they don't already
2006-07-26 09:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by jso 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like it to me.Show him a few pictures of two gay men getting it on, if he gets a hard on, you will know.
2006-07-26 09:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These conditions does not show he is a gay. First you should try to have sex with him if he denies then he is gay. i think its on you to check all this...
2006-07-26 09:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by ati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds gay....but on the other hand if he can pick better outfits than you, maib u could keep him around as a friend...lol... sorrii
2006-07-26 09:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ i luv mi babi ♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wears chapstick with sparkles in it on purpose, then probably.
2006-07-26 09:51:25 · answer #10 · answered by rhyno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋