my daughter is going with a boy for a while now she wants to end it but he wont listen to her. he is driving her mad and family and friends have even told him she is ready for a nervous break down !help.!!!!
2006-07-26 09:43:43 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
have her dad get out the shotgun.
2006-07-26 09:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ollie Tabooger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should be very careful, tell him its over, avoid him like the plague, I dealt with a real winner about a year ago, he kept calling, showed up my house, called my cell phone night & day. The biggest thing she needs to do, is put as much space as possible between them and realize that no matter what he's doing now, its all for her attention not because he needs her, or loves her, blah blah blah, she needs to move on and forget he even exists and eventually he'll lose interest, hopefully grow up, and if necessary look into a restraining order, or (lol - have someone take him out - my dad thought it was an option).
2006-07-26 16:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by Queen_Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining Order. Take her to the County Court house and ask to speak to someone about applying for a restraining Order. She will be immediately taken before a judge and granted a Temporary Restraining Order ("TRO"). The guy will be served with the TRO the next day and a court hearing will be set for a permanent Restraining Order. If he violates any of these orders, he will be thrown in jail.
2006-07-26 16:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by brian_hahn_32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably right on the verge of starting to stalk her. This you may have to get the police involved. He may even turn violent on her, or threaten to kill anyone who is "in competition" with him, say that if he couldn't have her then no one can and threaten to kill her, or even threaten suicide. As a paramedic with 25 years experience, I've seen this many, many times. History repeats itself. She needs to break all contact with him, and avoid him at all costs. If she gives him an inch, then he'll take a mile and hold on for hope. So no contact whatsoever, and don't be afraid to involve the police or get some type of restraining order if you have to. These things can be very ugly very fast, so you and your daughter will have to be aggressive with it. Best of luck to you........
2006-07-26 16:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is over 18 recommend a restraining order. If shes younger, you should get involved.
Let me add this, your daughter if over 18 needs to be an adult and tell him how it is. No man can tell a woman what to do. If he threatens her with violence then the authorities get involved. But she needs to step up and end it. There are women who are battered by their husbands and they had the courage to get up and leave with the kids. If they can leave everything behind, your daughter can do. You as her mom need to tell her that you have her back through it all.
2006-07-26 16:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by ♠♣♥Rogue♣♥♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a restraining order on his little possessive *** and you as a mother have the power in your hands to threaten him and his family. Tell him that it's unfortunate but if doesn't stop harassing your daughter you will be force to take legal action. And do it if doesn't listen.
2006-07-26 16:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Irene A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that feeling too well.It happened to me too.I had a very hard time convincing this guy it was over..I received Roses,candy,calls all hours of the day and night.
I finally told him how I felt and how his actions were afecting me.It was only then that the harrassment stopped.I thought I would need a restraining order but it didn't come to that
2006-07-28 02:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes mothers think that things are affecting their children more than they really are. She is clearly interested in this guy and if she felt like she was in a dangerous situation she would have contacted or would have talked to you about contacting the authorities. Especially in teenage years, it is a fine line between obsessive and in love; they can't control their emotions, desires, or hormones as well as adults and it can appear obsessive.
I think it is time you really discuss it with your daughter and him in the same room and either come up with a solution or warn him of the consequences if he continues to pursue her without avail.
2006-07-26 16:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by mico_mami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put your foot down. This kid needs a good butt kickin or a restraining order. what he is doing is harrassment. to think of it even more it is a kind of ABUSE. nip it in the bud now or it will go on for longer.
the lil sh*t needs to be put in check. It is ABUSE so a restraining order would work and end all contact right their. if contact continues it puts is butt in jail that simple
2006-07-26 16:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by quikone2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend went through this one time, and unfortuneately it took for her to get a restraining order for the madness to end.
2006-07-26 16:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to step in. if he continues to harash her, get s restaining order. sometimes you might even haqve to chance your phone number, change job or school, change the route, but be careful. even making out a police report is good. because if he continues to go after her there are laws now to protect your daughter
2006-07-26 16:49:37 · answer #11 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋