because its embarrasing and my friends think that its weird (the weird thing is my ssecret) should i spill and tell them and let them hate me or just keep it a secret? because idk if im bi or not
2006-07-26 09:29:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and this morning my aunt said something hurtful but it wasnt about bis is was about gays...ima gurl...she said "wat is wrong with this world every guy is turning gay!" and that kinda gave me a feeling she didnt like those kinda people...
2006-07-26 09:47:54 · update #1
Why do they need to know anything yet? Take some time, figure out if you really are, then work on telling the people in your life. I'm a firm believer in your sex life being your business until a relationship develops with serious potential.
2006-07-26 09:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Spill", but dont let them hate you.
Challenge them to be brave enough and to be loving of you enough to take the facts as they are.
You ant change the facts, they cant hange the facts, but at least you've come to accept them and thus so should they.
Your better friends will have support and advice and may even be able to help you in your decision making.
Its painful to lose a friend, but it's much MORE painful to live a life being untrue to yourself or hiding something inside, living in fear of what they will think of you.
Pretty soon, you will outgrow that fear anyway, and you'll really HAVE to if you do discover your truly bi, so why not make your first steps toward that growth now?
2006-07-26 09:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by Yentl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming your bi. A secret hidden for a long time will eventually tear you apart. Best thing to do is slowly tell each family members one by one at the right moment. And yes they will hate or become furious. Tell them the truth, it will hurt for a while but not forever. They are still your family hate them or love them nothing will change.
2006-07-26 09:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by Kohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first do some soul-searching to determine what you are for sure. Maybe tell one or two of your closest friends/family members to support you in your decision making process. Then when you've finally decided about your "secret", you'll know when the right time is. Better to be hated for what you truly are, than really loved for who you are not.
2006-07-26 09:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can keep a secret.It takes a strong person to tell a secret.you should never hold in anything, because it will eat you up inside, and that's not a way to live. So spill the beans.
2006-07-26 09:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by *Shy Girl* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they're you're family and actually care about you then i don't think you have a problem with letting them know about your sexuality. they can't hate you for being yourself. i think it woul dbe easier to just tell them than hate yourself for not knowing how they would feel if you told them the truth.
2006-07-26 09:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by kay.ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't "need" to tell them- don't. Unless it's serious...-Tell your best girlfriend & see what happens. We ALL have little- ah, "pivacies"- that are probably best kept to ourselves. If anyone "hates" you for yours- then THEY are the ones who have the problem.
2006-07-26 09:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you like eat their dog or something? No don't tell....they aren't really your friends anyhow
2006-07-26 09:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to tell anyone, that's why it's called a secret.
2006-07-26 09:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by chrissy123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell!! you don't want to stay in the dark
ur fam will love you no matter wat, and if ur friends reject u, then think, would real friends reject me? the answer is: no, they would not
i hope that u tell, i personally don't have experience, but my bff did, and we were happee she told us!
:-)
2006-07-26 09:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋